my nearly 4 yr old daughter wont clean her room on her own!

Melanie - posted on 09/17/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




How do I get my daughter to clean up all her toys with out mommy having to pitch in! She wont finish a simple job of putting her barbies back in the box unless I am right there doing it with her. I know she is capable of doing it herself, but how can I make it easier for her to do the job with out me? I am not asking a lot, just simple tasks. Please let me know if you have any sugestions! Thanks!


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Michele - posted on 09/19/2009




My son, who is 6yr needs to be motivated to do just about anything. When he was about 3 I started having him put his toys away before story time. I would say, I would love to read stories as soon as you put all your toys away. It did not take him long to catch on. Now I put a time limit on it b/c he would play and then clean up and say OK I'm ready for stories now. I try and find out what he likes (it changes) and use that as a motivator for him. I say: I would love to let you have "this" or do "that" after you do........
this is a modified version of "LOVE AND LOGIC'S" It is a type of parenting, books, seminars, videos. They are based out of Colo, you can google them and find out much more. I hope this helps

Kerry - posted on 09/19/2009




The reward system is a good idea, but you could also try having a race with her, i.e see how much she can tidy away while you run the bath, load the dishwasher or even tidy other toys etc, it works well will my oldest daughter who was 4 at the end of May. At the end of the day it will take time, lots of practice and positive reinforcement. Hope this all helps.

Holley - posted on 09/19/2009




my duaghter just turned 4 and has been cleaning her room ( putting shoes, toys stuffed anilmals barbis,and dirty clothes away) by herself since about three so your child is completely capable. have you tried the reward system>if you put all your toys in your toybox you get 10 extra minutes of tv time (or whatevre works best for you)...and if that doesnt work start taking things she enjoys away...

Tam - posted on 09/19/2009




From my experience you won't just yet. My 4 yr old still needs my assistance as encouragement. She responds well to loads of praise for doing the smallest thing and I use a sort of reward system. If she is playing with toys and it's snack time or DVD time (both things she particularly likes!) then she get neither without tidying up first. We tidy up together (younger sibling as well) singing a little tidy up time song and then they are rewarded with their snack or a DVD or whatever it is that they were being offered as a reward. As time goes by I will have to move to a start chart or similar and only reward for a series of "clean and tidy" days. Might work for you as well - Good luck!

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