My parents want my baby to call them ridiculously stupid names!

Trician - posted on 09/18/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




My parents are on the 'trashy' side. They have a granddaughter who is now a 17 year old high school drop out and into drugs. Long story short my sister has not done well in life and she and my niece are a disaster. I don't see the sister and niece at all and my 1st baby is due next month and my baby won't ever be seeing them either. I'm an older mom and have done well in life and needless to say, I'm not trashy like my family. My parents have always been called 'Ahma and Happa' by my niece. I don't know where or how this redneck, trailer trash, hillbilly-speak came into existence, but my baby will call my parents 'grandma and grandpa'. My parents are determined that she will continue on with their 'original' names, but they live 1000 miles away and between our 2 visits yearly, I'll be sure to teach her to say 'grandma and grandpa'!


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Trician - posted on 09/19/2012




Jodi, I was wondering if others have a situation like mine. And Jodi, I don't have respect for my parents because my father is a falling down drunk and my mother was extremely abusive to me as a child and even put me in the hospital with 3rd degree burns. I guess you've had a happy childhood, surfing and all, so you cant conprehend a childhood of torture at the hands of parents like mine. I'm doing them a favor by not turning away their toxic asses. Again luckily I only have to see them 1-2 times a year.

S. - posted on 09/19/2012




I get where your coming from, her in the Uk it is normal to have a grandma/gran or a nana /nan and a grandad some people have grandpa's but that one is unusual here. My mum was already nana and we have a great nana (I had a nana wizz and a big nana) anyway my mil came up with Nona she pronounced it no-na i think it's Italian (my mil is Scottish) we really didn't want to call her it but did anyway as I didn't feel it was my place to choose who she was, thankfully she changed her mind after a few weeks and is now grandma.

In your situation I'd probably call them what they wanted especially since you don't see them often, you kids will probably grow to call them ahma and happa to there face and then refere to them as my granma n grandpa to other ppl.

Katrina - posted on 09/19/2012




I honestly have no issue with the names in question...

My parents are known as Numma and Papa because we already had a Pop and Nanna (my grandparents) and they have Grandma and Grandpa (my MIL & FIL) and Grandma Pepper (G-MIL)

Generally speaking, kids will invent their own names for their grandparents (Papa was supposed to have been Umpa - but my toddler couldn't get her tongue around it).

I would not stress about them Grandma and Grandpa if you want but don't be narky about will only cause animosity later in life if you hold onto it (your resentment for the name)

Quite honestly too...what's in a name? It's the relationship that counts

Jodi - posted on 09/18/2012




So what is your question? You seem to have already decided that you have no respect for your parents, and the fact that while one daughter may have turned out like crap, you turned out ok. You also seem to have already decided what your child will call them. So....???

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