my sahm is not happy with me

Stephen - posted on 01/30/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi,

Recently my wife has been unhappy, more like pissed. It has gotten to the point where I was so miserable myself, that I had to talk to her. So she broke down told me she love's me but is not in love with me, that i need to help with the kids more and be more involved in our family life. I've been reading some of the posts about your husbands and ex husbands and I fear if I do not do something we are headed down that path. I could almost take another post from this forum and it would be my life exactly. I didn't realize how much of an ass I was being, I feel horrible and want to change. I know this is not going to be easy for me but I love my wife and we have two kids 2 and 4 years old. She did not even want to talk to me about it because we have talked about this numerous times in the past, but I didn't realize how serious this was starting to get. So she finally told me exactly how she felt. Thank God.
I was reading the posts here and was wondering if anyone can give me tips, advice anything to help me understand and help my wife. I don't know if this is strange for a man to be posting here but i felt like i needed to get this off my chest, and I am finding your posts helpful.
Thank you
steve

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Atasha - posted on 01/31/2013

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She needs a time out. Give her a chance to go out and pamper herself. It is extemely hard to be a SAHM when your needs go unanswered. Think about it. At home all day with two small children. Although very rewarding it can become teidious and no offence but she probably is craving adult attention. I love my kids and would do anything for them, but I need to take care of me too. A simple outing on her own (without the children) can make all the difference in the world. Simply offer to watch the kids for a day while she takes care of her needs. Things will get better, but only if you try.

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Well I think it's wonderful you realize something is wrong and she needs help. My advice, show her lots of affection, pitch in and help w/o being asked, but also ask her often what you can do to help. Show by your actions and words that you care, don't assume she knows. Us moms can appear to be needy but it's because we take so much on with feeling we have to take care of everything that the pressure can get to you. And sometimes you just want your mate to say I love you, I care, I will help you. Simple things like that can mean the world to us.

Tamika - posted on 01/30/2013

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it is a little strange-i cant imagine many men on the circle of moms page...sounds like you better step up your game quickly

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