My son is 10 months old and is sooooo spoiled and wants to be held ALL the time. What is

Karley - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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the longest that I should let him cry it out???? I know nothing is wrong with him, he ate, he has a clean diaper, he's burped.... He just wants to be held, as soon as I pick him up he is quiet and when I lay him in his crib be screams. Any advice???

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Myra - posted on 01/14/2010

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No problem! Just let him know that him needing to be held will slow down in the next few months, but right now it is a need. A lot of dads don't understand the need babies have of being held...it's not that they are bad dads or anything like that, it just isn't like a wet or dirty diaper or being hungry, so they don't understand it since it really isn't a visible need. If you can't or don't want to let him cry it out, don't. A calm home is much happier for everyone.

Karley - posted on 01/14/2010

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Thank you. I am the one who always wants to hold him, but his father gets mad at me and says "We are never gonna have a life if you hold him all the time" "You gotta let him work it out" And blah blah blah. But I just don't have it in me to let him sit there and cry. So at least now I have you on my side. LOL

Myra - posted on 01/14/2010

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My advice - hold him. Him wanting to be held is not the same as him being spoiled. Babies, toddlers, children, teens, and yes, even adults, need to be held. Babies need it more than adults, of course, but he NEEDS that closeness and warmth just as much as he needs milk, diapers, and to be burped. Holding him helps to develop him emotionally. It gets really frustrating to have someone want you to hold them so much, I know...but trust me, once he starts walking, he won't have time to slow down and be held.



If it is naptime or bedtime, try a book and some milk. Just sit in a chair together in his room where the light is really dim; if he can hold the bottle or sippy cup let him hold it while you read to him. It kind of bombards them with that warm cuddly feeling to have the book, drink, and being held, and most babies sleep easily since they are so content.

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