My son is almost six and still pooping his pants!

Jennifer - posted on 01/30/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I sit here crying as I write this post. I feel like I am at the end of my rope! My son is nearly six years old and is still pooping in his underwear. We have had him to the doctors, have had him on Murilex, the whole nine yards. Rewards, punishment, charts, incentives, I believe there is nothing else. He has pooped on the potty numerous times in the past and was very proud and we gave him much encouragement and praise. It is a control issue with him, he does it on purpose. We make him wipe himself up or get into the tub and wash up (it gets all over the place). Before he even refused to wipe and made my husband or I do it, but after much ignoring and leaving him messy, he now will clean himself. Still it is not without much agony and resistance that he does get clean. I know that I should not take this personally, but it has caused such a thorn in our lives and in my relationship with him. I am filled with guilt over the negative feelings that I feel towards him. At times I feel as if I will lose my sanity. They have told me that he will grow out of it and that once he becomes modest about the smell factor with friends or school mates he will change his tune. He has never once pooped in preschool or Kindergarden. Thoughts????????????

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Brenda Bates - posted on 01/31/2010

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I very much disagree with Doris, My daughter is nine and still has problems with it. She was diagnosed at 6 with encapresis. This is where the colon becomes enlarged due to long term holding it in. She would hold in her poop and ignore it because she did not want to stop playing. After three years of laxatives, enemas, stool softeners, mineral oil, fiber and anything I thought might help - it is slowly getting better but most of it was she had to decide to change. We did start a routine that she needs to sit on the potty for 10 minutes 15 minutes after everymeal. This just gets them in a habit and helps them recognize the feelings insider their bodies. Don't blame yourself. I still struggle with it and think I broke her but it is getting better. It is good that you are dealing with this now. I know someone who is dealing with this with thier 12 year-old

Doris - posted on 01/30/2010

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I hate to be the one to tell you, but its you guys. Ive worked with children who cant even hold themselves up, or as an toddler that would smear their own excrements around the classroom. if these children can learn to do it and your child has proven that he can do it then the only other answer is you two. Good luck, stick to your guns!

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