My son is very spoil .I give him what he want .What should i do.

Victoria - posted on 11/02/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is 7 year old . He is very spoil i give him want he want some time but when i don't give it 2 him ,he start 2 cry.I want 2 hit him but i will stent him 2 his room . What should i do.

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Sarah - posted on 11/02/2009

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We as parents teach our children how to act. I can understand your frustration over the situation, but also think this is something you created how can you be mad at him for doing something that you taught him how to do. You need to realize that he is acting this way because of what you have allowed. You can teach him how to act appropately, but it does not come overnight or easily. You have to stand firm and follow through with what you say ALWAYS. People say that spoiling a child is just a different way of abusing them. You don't do them any good by spoiling them. Teachers, employers, spouses, etc. are not going to cater to the spoiling. Instead teachers will send the child to the principal, employers will fire them, and spouses will divorce them. I would talk to your son and let him know that what you have been doing is not good for him and it will not help him later in life. Let him know what the new rules are and then stick to them. A time-out in his room is fine as long as you don't give in and he does not go into his room and play. A time-out is a time-out it is meant to think about your actions.

Bernadette - posted on 11/02/2009

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Quoting Victoria:

My son is very spoil .I give him what he want .What should i do.

My son is 7 year old . He is very spoil i give him want he want some time but when i don't give it 2 him ,he start 2 cry.I want 2 hit him but i will stent him 2 his room . What should i do.


U really need 2 stick 2 ur guns with ur son.Every1 has different types of time out.I have my kids stand against the wall.1st time-5mins,2nd time add another 5mins and so on.Every time he has a tantrum or ccries u shld try this 2 c if it works.My kids have learned that when I say NO I mean NO and now they keep quiet cuz they don't want 2 stand against the wall.In time he'll learn who is boss.Every1 is different,it will take him time 2 learn just need 2 b patient.Don't send him 2 his room cuz he knows that he can play n there.U need 2 make time 4 him & only him.U & him need 2 go somewhere(movies,bowling,bike riding,...etc.).He needs alone time with u cuz thats what I do with my kids.Spend alone time with each 1 of them.If u try this u'll c the difference n him.

K Marley - posted on 11/02/2009

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Oh and a lot of people skip over that fact that you have to notice when your kids are doing the right thing like if they ask for something and you say no..they drop it right there and not ask you again say "Now babe you still cant have that toy but for listening to mommy we can watch your fave movie tonight and even have popcorn!" works with my girl again goood luck :)

K Marley - posted on 11/02/2009

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I tell my daughter NO TOYS - TREATS or I WANTS - before Birthday, Christmas and Easter. She gets plenty during those times --- this way she will learn to be glad when she gets something and she plays with it a lot longer and all her other towns for that matter.
If you have to lock him in his room and let him scream it out if its too stressful for you do something to tune him out, turn on your fave CD and clean your bathroom or go outside and give a call to a good friend grma or mom. As long as you stick to your guns HE WILL after about a month HARD I KNOW begin to except that THAT IS THE RULES YOU ARE THE BOSS THE END. Hard I know way harder than giving in but I promise it will make you and him a better person in the end :) He'll be an esier teenager if he knows he can't control you :)
GOOD LUCK MOMMY YOU'LL ROCK AT THIS!

Tangi - posted on 11/02/2009

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That's not good mom. Those habits are hard 2 break because u have allowed him to have his way for so long. It's not too late for him. U have to reward him when he deserves it and it doesn't always have 2 be what he wants. Put ur foot down and just flat out tell him NO. Tell him when he misbehave when u tell him he can't have something, he will not get anything until he acts like a big boy. Actions speak louder than words. Remember you are the parent. Good Luck!!

Tara - posted on 11/02/2009

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I would stick to your guns and not give in to what he wants. He has to learn that he cannot always have what he wants, or he will have a very hard time as he gets older. It will probably take several times of being very firm and telling him NO, but I would suggest when he starts to cry/has a tantrum about it that you put him in time out or send him to his room for time out - make sure he does not have anything to play with or distract him as that makes the time out much more effective. I've been doing this type of thing (time out, etc) with my daughter since she started having tantrums and she usually stops the tantrum within a minute or two as soon as she realizes she is not going to get what she wants. Since she is only 19 months old and it's working for her, I would expect this type of approach would only work better for your son as he is older and understands more.

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