my son won't stop winging! Please Help me we're going insane

Bridgette - posted on 12/25/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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my beautiful son who is now 4 months old just won't stop winging all he want is attention and i can't pay him attention 24 hours a day i really need him to stop winging before it ruins my relationship with my fiancée. please if you have any idea whats going on please let me know i need help fast.

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Louise - posted on 12/26/2009

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I can understand that it might be tiring for you and that you have less time with your fiancee, however your son needs you the most now as he is still very little... at this age he might be suffering from colic or teething.. always make sure that he is not winging cos he is hungry or wet first...I carried my baby 24/7 for the first 6 months, now he is one and he does not need that much attention as before... have some patience until they are very young, believe me it will pay what you do to your kids now ...

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Joannie - posted on 12/29/2009

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I agree..its hard to do but this is the only way they will start being more indepenent! :)

Joannie - posted on 12/29/2009

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try and find him some toys that will occupy him alittle my son loved the swing...i would put him infront of cartoons in his little swing and he would be content for awhile..hope this help..good luck!

Kristen - posted on 12/28/2009

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well your fiancee should want to help you not leave you because of this. but anyway he's probably teething. you could use teething tablets, orajel, or cold teething rings.but really babies only scream because there is something wrong and they are too young to do it themselves.

Candice - posted on 12/28/2009

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okay welll i never really had much of this with my daughter but i noticed when every she was on her tumy she would wine all the time so then i noticed she was very gas baby and then as she got bigger she started pukeing all the time so then i got her checked but it was nothing really bad just problems with her flap working. so id have to say go to ur doctors get some test done like alter sound see if his tummy is fully developed see if hes teething, check if hes just gasie, try grape water, oval, try rubbing his tummy, or give him toys to intertain him , just try lots of things, put him in a jumper, put on a baby show, just try lots of different things and if nothing works ur baby is colic.

Christy - posted on 12/28/2009

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Hey Brigette, When my girls were very fussy. I would make sure they were fed, dry,in a safe place and warm. And one of the hardest things to do in put them to bed. They are fine. Don't let them drive you crazy, Turn up your favrite music. Relax, They can feel your frustration.

Mona - posted on 12/27/2009

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It takes a lot patience and strenght but singing helps. My son had colic pains til the age of 10 months and singing helped.

Chelsea - posted on 12/27/2009

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if you can rule out illness, hunger and pain. You have checked his diaper. Put him down let him cry a little. if you always give him attention he wont learn to sooth hiself or entertain hisself, i have only one baby who is now 9 months and wants all the attention all the time, give them something they find fun when you are playing with them and leave them with it, he may bry but in the end if you do it a little at a time he will be ok with you having a few minutes to yourself, i found that a jumper works really well, i started to put my daughter in one at 4 months, you have to watch them at first but sit on the couch with you sonn to be hubby and watch its quite entertaining when its new. if he crys help him by gentally bouncing him. that was the only way i did it and even now i use it if im putting a way grocries, and sometimes she throws a fit the entire time, they have to learn to be on there own a little.

Claudia - posted on 12/27/2009

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Try the book: The Baby Whisperer. 4 month olds don't wing. They might just be trying to get themselves to sleep. Grizzling is a sign of tiredness

Sarah - posted on 12/27/2009

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wow my daughter is also 4 months old and does the same thing...just give him some toys or soemthing. i know its not that easy it isnt for me but i think its all from teething she is teething like crazy. my daughter def does the same thing when i sit her down for a minute she starts up then i pick her up everything is all good. its soo weird but its just a stage i woudl assume..

Cherry - posted on 12/26/2009

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I let my son cry it out. But, of course I leave this as a last option. Check first if he is tired, or having fever, teething, soiled diaper... well check first maybe he's not comfortable with something. If all is well and he is just spoilt for attention, I just let him cry it out while I do my chores at home. Toys and musical mobiles only helps me for maximum 20 minutes then he'll start crying for attention again.

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All babies whine, For every reason. They do this because they can't talk.
It could be anything. Maybe its a tag sticking him in the back of the neck, maybe he smooshed his finger half an hour ago and now it's throbbing. Maybe he can't reach your pretty bright red coca cola can on the table. Maybe he is sick. The answer here is, it could be ANEEEEEETHING... and I do mean anything.
Try a hot bath, in the nice lavender smelly stuff. Try a good rubdown with the lavender lotion. Try a good tickle session. Try anything and everything. You WILL find what works. For about two weeks the only thing my son would laugh at is if you looked down into his face and coooed "TARTAR SAUCE" at him. It's insane sometimes.

If you are having a problem with your fiancee, You have to sit down and talk to HIM. The baby can't change...babies whine. babies cry. babies are babies. When a couple decides to take this step, there are hidden clauses in that contract you have to consider. The top of that list is, "baby comes first". Your fiancee needs to understand that this is part of being a dad. He has two choices. He can either go out there in the back yard and rip off two knuckles building the swingset... or he can stand in court as defendant. Either way, He's a father now. It's easier and more fun to be Daddy than it is to be defendant.

Kristy - posted on 12/26/2009

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Both of my kids were the same way, especially my daughter. I put them in a front pack carrier and carried them around with me everywhere, up until they were crawling. Its hard at first but you get used to it and int the end everybody is happy. Trust me when I say its a life savior, if a bit of a pain in the butt.

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Louise is right. Baby just wants to be near mum where he feels most comfortable. Wear him in a carrier while he needs this extra attention. I'm in the same situation. My son likes to be carried most of the time. Fine with me (even though he weighs 8.3 or 18.3 lbs at four and a half months of age!!!!) :) I know it's best for him - it worked wonders with my now two year old. It won't be forever and believe it or not, one day you will actually miss carrying your precious little boy around.

Debi - posted on 12/26/2009

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Could be any number of things...gas, teething, needing attention...if it has been going on for a long time, I would suggest talking to your pediatrician about it. As for it ruining your relationship, your fiance needs to understand that babies cry and if he truly loves you, he will learn to live with it!

Pam - posted on 12/26/2009

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Well it is probably not just your attention he wants,have him checked by a doctor or nurse> Hope your right and it is attention he is winging for . Also your fiancee should be supportive and not expect it to be easy. Some males are clueless! mine is lol...

Becky - posted on 12/26/2009

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If a baby if he is wining the take him to the doctor! A 4 month old is not going to cry if something is not wrong. He could be wet hungry or hurting. Baby's sleep a lot at 4 months! How much do you bath him. May be he has a ear infection.

Vicki - posted on 12/25/2009

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i would suggest a front pack.. my daughter was well still is a whino. and for the early months i have her in a side pack or a front pack. we just walk around and she would be great. my daughters one now and she grew out of the 24/7 attention thing. but it just takes good old patience. she also has a 3 year old brother well almost 3 on the 30th. they keep each other company . they just need great distractions

Jaelyn - posted on 12/25/2009

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Sounds like colic to me and unfortunately there is no magic answer. Try Mylacon drops which is an anti-gas, talk to your pediatrician about switching to Nutramagen formula or soy. Bounce him in your arms on his tummy to try to settle his tummy.

There were a few months where we had my hubby sleep in the guest room and put the baby with me so he would get enough sleep for work. Also I was fortunate enough to have my best friend live next door so there were times when I would literally just hand him off to her to go for a walk or a drive, still screaming, just to clear my head. Find someone to help you get breaks so you dont snap and take it out on him. Hang in there, it will get better around 1 yr old.

Debora - posted on 12/25/2009

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sometimes its from colic so vacumming puts them to sleep,if hes not sick or teething then placing him into a swing with toys and music can help so you can get housework done .you can buy a sling where you can place him on you while you can be freed to get things like laundry done ,dusting,dishes while listening to some soothing sytle music.if its not to cold where you live you could go for a simple walk with him in stroller with infant support to help him get to sleep so you can enjoy some quite time.but you may want to take him to dr to be sure he`s not sick.

Tam - posted on 12/25/2009

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swing high chair play pen some intersesting light up toys..best idea i can give you or let him cry.. if you spoil them really early they expect to be held a lot. i have one kid who is very independent cause she was themiddle one and i was too busy with other two to baby her a lot..

Amythyst - posted on 12/25/2009

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my daughter is now 11 months. she started this around three months when she began teething. it has not gone away but it has lessened a bit. Some things we do, when at all possible carry her, we had a baby sling for wandering around the house. Butr just including her in what we do helps, holding her on our laps at the computer or during meals and getting her to help with the laundry (sitting in the laundry basket, pulling everything out and outting it back in etc). When we can't pick her up talk to her about it, for example "mommy's just going to do this dishes then she can pick you up about ten minutes"...and so on. If this is the problem and it is not teething illness etc. DR Sears has a book on what they term " high need babies"...could have some useful suggestions in it

Renae - posted on 12/25/2009

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Has this started recently? Is there something wrong? Fever, illness, teething, anything? I find that my baby (and all the babies in my mums group) whinge when they don't feel well or are in pain but stop as soon as someone is holding them and paying them attention, but put them down and they whine again. It only seems to happen when there is something wrong. Have you felt for teeth and checked his temperature? Maybe a visit to the doctor is in order?

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