My three year old is handfull, talking back , doing the oposite of what i say, HELP

Amanda - posted on 01/10/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I love him to death but three year old is a handfull, i say it is black his it is white I say yes he says no, doesn't want to go to bed just about anything we ask him it is no. do you have any tips for us and do your three year ols act like this i hope i'm not the only one


Raven - posted on 01/10/2010




Haha... get used to it! ;) We use timeout if our toddler gets out of hand with the attitude. Or we will take things or going somewhere away. For example she loves going to Walmart to ride the bikes and look at the fish, it's freezing cold outside, tonight daddy had to run to Walmart and she didn't get to go because she kept yelling 'no' at everything I said.


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Debi - posted on 01/11/2010




I have been there and you are so right they are handfuls. I used the 1,2,3 method to this day I have never gotten to 3 I am not sure what I would have done if I had. I just told mine that if I get to 3 they would be in trouble. I also had a naughty and good jar. If they was bad "they" had to take a toy from the good jar in put in the bad jar. At the end of the week they got what was in the good jar after a few weeks of getting nothing they stopped getting things taken out. Cheap toys or kid meal toys are the best. I used it to get them to clean there rooms and pick up there clothes to they get to add a toy to the good jar if they did a good thing. Hope this helps and good luck

Jessica - posted on 01/10/2010




Start telling him no in response to some of his requests, make him understand that talking back & saying no to mommy is rude & disrespectful. When he asks for a treat or a toy at the store, tell him no, because he didn't do what you asked him to do earlier. Children are like sponges, they absorb everything, eventually he will figure out that telling mommy no will get him nowhere. When his bad behavior begins, give him a choice, either straighten up or have a consequence. Let him understand that he is going to be responsible for the wrongs he does. Also, if your comfortable with a pop on the booty, that will help out too. I tell my three year old if he doesn't stop acting up in the store, I'll take him to the bathroom. I never had to do it yet, but the way he pushes boundaries, I'm sure it's coming. I know how frustrating your situation is because I am dealing with it myself. Talking to my son is like having a conversation with a brick. I have two other children & the soft methods I use with them does not work on the three year old. You have to be more stern but not break his spirit at the same time. Which ever way you decide to go, be consistent & always follow through with what you say.

LaKesha - posted on 01/10/2010




Well, I don't know what you believe in, but I spank my children (not beat or abuse). People are always complimenting on how well-behaved our children are. Now we don't spank every time they do wrong, as a matter of fact, we rarely have to do it, but they know if they cross the line then we will do it. That's what works for us, which may not work for everyone, but I would say it's worth a try. Good luck!

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