My two year old having melt downs!

Randi - posted on 05/27/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I think I broke her by spoiling her when she was a baby by always picking her up and never bringing her around out her people because now that she is two she doesn't want to be without me and streams and cries mommy, mommy help, and if someone tries to draw her attention away from me she will go but the second she sees I m not next to her she stops and starts saying my mommy, then it gets worse and turns into a scream. I have been trying to stick to my no's and I m not picking u up but that makes it worse to. I have severe separation anxiety when I have to leave her and she is like that to but I don't let her see me cry and she is only ok when I leave her with my mom. I need advice on how to get her to b alright without me by her side. I can't get anything done during the day without her hanging on me all the time. I will try anything! I know that this is my fault but there were complications when she was born and she has been evaluated to make sure she is developmentally on point, which she is. So that's all the info u girls my need to give me some help,ASAP!

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I only have a 13 month old so you may not value my advice as much as a mom who has been there done that, but I will tell you what I think and you can take it or leave it of course :-) I've bought into a more attachment parenting style. I co-sleep with my son, I'm still breastfeeding and I stay home with him. With that said, I'm more about allowing him to become independent more naturally and I plan on sticking with this method as he gets older. Sometimes he wants to be held more than other times. I'm into babywearing though. I recently went to a babywearing group where moms actually where their toddlers on their backs too. There are carriers where you can carry them more easily. From what I've seen and read, your daughter's reactions based on how you started are pretty normal. I'm not sure what you would like to do, but the babywearing may help her and you will be able to get some things done like cook, laundry, etc. I also make my son apart of some things like laundry and cleaning at times. It is really just a phase for them. For me, when I get a little frustrated with it, I relax and I start to think about when the day will come when he is more independent and his clingyness is over. We don't have that many years of them being exactly like this, so I try to look at it differently in my moments of frustration and I see it too from his perspective: he is used to just being with me only most of the time. I've never been away from him for more than 2 hours at a time and that has only been like 3x ever! When I look at it this way, it makes it easier for me not to get frustrated or want him to pass the separation anxiety phase. I hope this helps you. :-)

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AWWW!! You are so welcome! I definitely know how that is because this style of parenting is very different from how I was raised and how people in both of our families think we should raise kids. But stand your ground, Mama. I'm noticing already that people are noticing the benefits of how I raise my son. I think, you too, will get the same thing from others. People may never admit it, but they will start to see the difference.

Randi - posted on 05/29/2013

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I love your advice. That is definitely something I am going to look into. It's not me who wants to break her of needing me its everyone else's opinion and really your right she is already two and time flies. Thank u so much for understanding and not judging me. I also can't be away from her and I only feel some what k if she is with my mom. I break down if I have to leave her, she sleeps with me, we play together, and I need her to make me smile. I think I need to own it and tell everyone else they have there way I have mine. Thank u, you have made this stressed out moms day!

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