my year old wont sleep

Alana - posted on 12/29/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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it is a fight to get my year old to lay down for a nap or even go to sleep for the night, tryed everything nothing works. i have even let im were him self out he will start to rub his eyes and yawn but still wont go down for a nap. can anyone help me?

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Alana - posted on 01/01/2010

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hey thanks he has a routine but he would stay asleep, been on this routine since september

Renae - posted on 12/29/2009

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PS, try to get him to bed before he gets overtired (rubbing eyes is a sign of overtiredness) as babies find it more difficult to go to sleep when they are overtired. "Wearing them out" works with older toddlers, but usually backfires with babies under 2.

Renae - posted on 12/29/2009

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Firstly you need to establish a bedtime routine. Any sleep method you choose to use to get your son to go to bed will require you to have a routine that tells him (prepares his brain) that is time to go to sleep. By 1 it is also a good idea to have a set bedtime so that this internal clock gets used to going to bed at the same time every day. If he has transitioned to 1 nap a day, then you can also have a set nap time (harder to do if you are still on 2 naps as the second nap depends on getting him to bed on time for the first one!).

Next you have a couple of options. The first thing I recommend you try is a method called gradual withdrawal - I will give you a modified version for older babies, but I think it will still work with a 1 year old. But it is not going to be easy, the older the baby the more persistent they are and the more patient you need to be. It will be 2-4 weeks before he is going to bed easily.

What you need to do is lay him in his cot and talk and sing to him until he lays down ON HIS OWN (assuming he will stand up or sit and want to play) and goes to sleep. This might take 1.5 hours for him to go to sleep during the first week. After that he will start to go to sleep sooner and sooner, every few days you should see progress (I said it would require patience!). Once you get to the point that he is going to sleep in a normal-ish amount of time (less than 30 minutes) then you start to leave the room sooner and sooner. So to start off you stay in the room until he is fast asleep. Once the time reduces, start leaving the room just after he has gone to sleep but is not yet fast asleep. After a few more days, leave the room just as he closes his eyes, then just when his eyes get droopy, and so on. Leave sooner and sooner until you can put him down, tell him its sleep time and leave. The most IMPORTANT thing with this method is that you can not RUSH the process. Your baby needs time to get used to each step before you move on to the next. Give him about 3 days between each step.

If this doesn't work (it usually does) then you are welcome to come back to me for other options. If you decide you are going to use a crying method (personally I'm not sure that's necessary in your situation but then I don't know the whole situation like how much sleep you and your son are getting and its not for me to decide what is best for your baby), please contact me for information on cry interpretation before you do it.

Hope I've helped.

Alana - posted on 12/29/2009

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bath massage book pj's teeth bottle and cuddle with mommy well having his bottle do that everynight

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try different musicals, keep the boxes and reciepts so you can return the ones that don't work. I have one that lights up the cieling and plays different tunes. But I think some kids are good sleepers and some kids aren't. Honestly, mine didn't sleep well until age 3 and 4 ---but I also didnt' let them cry much, I think it is best to let them know you are there in a few minutes to comfort them, but try a good body massage after the bath to soothe and relax with the baby shampoos they have now as a start that are scented but gentel to the eyes and the lotions as well . Good luck, sleep deprivation is no joke.

Darla - posted on 12/29/2009

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I know some people think this method is horrible but we did the cry it out method and we have had a baby that naps and sleeps through the night since she was 3 months old. It only took 2 nights of letting her cry for 10 minutes and that was it. She is so much happier and active when she gets the sleep she needs.

Meg - posted on 12/29/2009

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Do you have a specfic routine that signals to your child that it's almost time for bed? For my daughter it's watch her show (she was almost 2 before we let her watch TV), get pj's on, brush teeth, say goodnight/give hugs & kisses to everyone (including the dog, favorite toys, etc. as needed), go upstairs and read books. It took a few months, but she is used to the routine and doesn't fight it as much.

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