Nap Time Problems

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 6 month old hates his naps. It takes him over an hour to get to bed. I wait until I'm sure he's tired, but not too tired, around 11:30am and 3:30pm daily. Every day I rock and sing to him for 10-20 minutes until he's close to sleep and then I put him down in his bed. He then cries and cries for 20-40 minutes. He usually falls asleep but it just takes SO long! We don't have this problem at night. I can put him down awake and he will fall asleep on his own with little crying. I've made his room dark, put on music, put on a little fish machine with noise, everything, but nothing works! why does it work at night and not at nap time? what am i doing wrong??


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Kristin - posted on 03/04/2010




You aren't doing anything wrong. He may be geting enough sleep. How many total hours of sleep is he getting in a 24 hour period? I don't recall just what they should be getting, but he may only need one nap instead of two. Maybe one nap at 1 to 1:30 instead? I don't mean a half hour long nap, that's just the time to put him down.

As for a routine, I had to make it shorter with mine to get them to nap. It was one story, one song, and then it was time to lay down. I left the younger with a boring toy and left. Initially he cried for a few minutes if he wasn't asleep already, but then no problems. He knew it was naptime and that was that. The first born was more challeging. He was a co-sleeper and needed me to help him get to sleep. I did the same thing, but I had to stay with him until he was out.

You might also try wearing him out more with physical activity. I assume he isn't walking or running yet. But if he rolls or crawls, maybe a little game of chase or follow the leader. You really won't have to do much and he will get some practice making hi body do what he wants it to do.

Last but not least, has he started teething? This is going to mess everything up each time new one starts to come through. No matter what, be patient and consistent. He will soon learn that naptime is not up for debate, at least not until he is a couple of years older. Good luck.

Sarah - posted on 03/04/2010




Thanks for the encouragement! I tried Tracy Hogg's method, but he just cries longer and longer, or he'll cry in my arms. i guess i just have a crier! i've ended up doing the ferber/cry it out method because i feel like i've got nothing else i can do. so far it has been 1 and 1/2 hours for this nap!! i even nursed him to make sure he wasn't hungry, and he fell asleep! when i put him down, he woke right up and cried for 1/2 hour. this too shall pass, right?! :o)

Christy - posted on 03/04/2010




Hi Sarah, I don't think you are doing anything wrong. In fact, I have the exact same problem, but reversed. My 9 month old will take naps, but has a hard time getting to sleep once she wakes up in the middle of the night. I just spent 2 hours straight picking her up and putting her back down in her crib over and over again because she would cry each time I put her down (even though she was almost asleep each time I put her in the crib). I think we just may need to explore other sleep strategies. I was looking at the Ferber method, but it seems pretty harsh for me so I might try something else first. I'll let you know if something works for me eventually (I hope it does). In the meantime, you may want to check out the Baby Whisperer (by Tracy Hogg), I understand that she has a pretty good strategy that isn't quite as harsh as Ferber. I'm reading it right now so hopefully it will return some results. Don't give up in the meantime. I believe every baby is just different and what works for one, may not work for another. Good luck for now. :)

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