nearly time to go back to work frm mat leave,

Kelly - posted on 10/06/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




its nearly time to go back to work after maternity leave, im so not ready yet, my baby girls 5mnths old. the thought of someone else seeing her walk or talk for the first time makes me want to cry. dont knw wether to just go back part time but then theres the money issue!!! arghhhh so hard, what do you think? x


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We are very fortunate in Canada to have 1 year of maternity leave, if you want it, so I was lucky to see all the "firsts" with my son. But I knew as soon as I returned to work, that I was staying home if we were blessed with #2. In fact, I couldn't get pregnant fast enough! #3 is here now and I have been home for over 3 years.......and I know it was the right decision for us. Even though we are forever broke. (was seriously considering if the goldfish were edible this morning....not the crackers, the real ones in the tank.) My son goes to others homes and see the Wii's, the Nintendo DS's and all the games they have.....the toys galore, 2 (holy crap mom!) cars in the driveway, and yet another trip to DisneyWorld. And we can't give them any of that. It used to break my heart....but not anymore. It's stuff. just stuff. Those same kids that have the computer games and trips to Disney......they are alone outside half the time, or at my house playing with my kids. I see them outside on the weekend when it is almost dark....while the parents are inside socializing. As long as you can pay your bills, put food on the table, and dress them......beyond that what the really need most is YOU. I do what I feel called to do, having faith that God will provide what we Need. And so far, so good. Don't worry, you're heart will tell you if returning to work was the wrong decision. As for the rest, you can live on much less than you think. It's just how much you are willing to give up.

Montana - posted on 10/06/2010




i think u gotta do what u gotta do. if u need the money stay full time but if u can afford to work part time, i think thats great!

Amanda - posted on 10/06/2010




You have to do whats best for your family..I was scared of the same thing with my baby boy, but it gets easier...And in alot of cases you dont really miss it...I saw everything for his first time =)

Leonie - posted on 10/06/2010




I hear you... Went back to work when my first was 6mths and it was hard.
You just have to know that you are doing what is best for your child & that the first time you see her talk is the first time she has talked for you, same with walking. You aren't going to be there when she does her first everything so when you first see it is the first time she has done it.
My first daughter did in fact first walk in front of me, and talking - I think she did that with me first - to be honest I don't remember. All I know is that she is a very well adjusted girl, she knows that her Dad and I love her to pieces and her carers have taught her a lot of stuff I never would have thought of - so she is quite advanced educationally.
Hope I have helped, I know it is hard and my heart goes out to you...

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