Need advice - 5 yr old wets the bed!

Alina - posted on 06/24/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hey ladies. My 5 year old daughter still wets the bed. When she was younger the doctor said she had an under-developed bladder. Recently I took her to the lab and there is nothing wrong with her bladder, but the doctor says it could just be hereditary or something with her neurological system. She had accidents during nap time in pre-k last year, too. I get her up at night every 2.5 hours, and she goes just fine. She has to stop drinking 2 hours before bed. However, the doctor says it is not normal that she has a full bladder every time I take her to use the bathroom. We have an appointment with a specialist soon, but I wanted to know if there was another mom with an older bed-wetting child, and how you have handled it. Thanks!


Lindsay - posted on 06/24/2013




I have 3 children and 1 on the way. My daughter just turned 6 years old and she is just now not having any sleep time accidents without me intervening. My son was about this age too so yes I believe it is partly hereditary. I am preparing myself for a repeat of this with my almost 2 year old :)
My plan was successful for all of my children and it was to limit drinks after dinner, especially no water after dinner (I still do this now with my 6 and 2 year old),and I take them to the bathroom immediately before they lay down to sleep (I still do this now with my 6 and 2 year old as a part of our bedtime routine) and while my child was having accidents I took him/her 1 time to the bathroom approximately 2-3 hours after he/she fell asleep initially.
Also in your case try cutting out the repeat trips after that first time you take her 2.5 hours into her sleep, she may surprise you by staying dry and not needing those repeat trips through the night, wouldn't that be great?! It will give her some extra confidence that she is getting better and you some extra sleep too. Make sure her teacher knows to take her to the bathroom immediately before she lays down for a nap too, this will help prevent school accidents, we went through that too.
While trying to sleep time train I would wait about a month and try an experimental night of not taking them to the bathroom at all to see what happened, we had a few years of trying but we did succeed. Just keep trying that once a month and eventually she will get the hang of it, I have a feeling you are closer than you think :) Good luck and please try to relax, I know this is almost impossible for us moms, but in my opinion it is too soon to involve a specialist. Give her to age 6 at least and see what happens first, both of my children were ok by 6-7 years old without any medical interventions :) Studies say sometimes children can have accidents up into even higher ages such as 7-10 years old but they do outgrow it on their own. My son was almost 7 and my father was 10 before they were having accident free nights so I know this is true. My son who is now 18 can hibernate like a bear for 12 to 14 hours without a trip to the bathroom and has since he was 7 LOL!!!

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