Need another mom's thoughts

JoNita - posted on 02/28/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My 3 1/2 month old son has not been having BMs everyday. In fact we're lucky if he goes once every 7 days. The doctor says it is fine and normal that the nerves in his lower intestine and anus are not developed compleatly yet. My husband and I just don't know what to think. Lots of our frends and family that we have talked to say go to a specialest but we have had more then one doctor tell us that it is fine. Any thoughts?

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Kathleen - posted on 03/02/2010

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We did finally give him something made for babies to get him to go when the BM's were more than 7 days part. It was a Glycerin Suppository made for children. We would use half of one (Cut lengthwise). It would bring on an almost immediate BM. This was done ONLY after talking to our pediatrician.

Kathleen - posted on 03/02/2010

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This happened with my son as well but not with my daughters...He would go as long as 10 days sometimes. But he was never in pain and never seemed to be feeling bad. He was breastfed and my research (Dr, Nurses, internet, sisters) found this to be normal. When you start adding solids to his diet, he will begin having BM's more often.

Amanda - posted on 03/02/2010

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My son (now 3 yrs) had the same problem. The doctors all told me the same thing, except one. She told me to try "stimulating" his muscles to work. She showed me how to take the corner of a wipe or the diaper and pretty much tickle his anus, causing him to contract the muscles which would then relax fully and alow him to finally poop. Sometimes it wouldn't work, but it usually did.

JoNita - posted on 03/02/2010

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Thank you to everyone for all your comments. My diet is ideal for breastfeeding per my doctor. When my son does go it is not hard at all, it is normal texture and color for a breatfed baby. I am going to talk with our doctor about a couple different things to see if that may be what is going on. Again thank you all.

Lacey - posted on 03/02/2010

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I agree with alot of the breastfeeding comments. While I was breastfeeding my son it wasn't uncommon for him to go almost a week without pooping. It is because breastmilk is so different from formula. As long as he is happy and his stomach isn't hard like a rock and you aren't losing sleep over it I would say that you are fine. Are his stools a normal color - not red, black or white?

Kristin - posted on 03/02/2010

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I would take a look at what you are eating and drinking if you are breastfeeding. If you aren't, check out other formulas (make sure it still has DHA and whatnot). I breastfed both of mine and if I was a little constipated, it was pretty much a given that they would be too. The other mom's who have commented that there is very little left after digesting breastfeeding.



My younger son would go 6-8 days without pooping when he was about 3-4 months. I asked about it and was told to keep and eye on how he felt when he did go, that was a much bigger indicator of a problem than the time span. His doc recommended that I "exercise" him. That amounted to increasing his tummy time, helping him kick and bicycle his legs, gently stretch and twist him as well as giving gentle abdominal massage and increasing the frequency of his baths (we live in a really cold and dry climate). If you want to try any of these, talk with a nurse or your doctor (maybe a massage therapist) and start slowly, he may fuss a bit a first as it will feel strange to him. With the massage, make sure you travel in the direction the intestines move things, or you will back him up. I would avoid any medications or starting solid foods until you have spoken with his doctor, his system has enough to master just now.



In the end, go with your instincts and seek out help as you feel you need to. Good luck and feel free to look me up if you need some other ideas.

Susan - posted on 03/02/2010

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My daughter was on just breastmilk and would go 7 days without a BM. Our doctor said if she wasn't uncomfortable, not to worry. We worried anyway! She once went 10 days. It was not hard when she would go. She wasn't constipated. When she was on food after 6 months, I suddenly knew what was constipated. She had an awful time. We watched her diet for too many binding things. From 12 months - 18 months, she had 1/2 tsp of mineral oil a day, per doctor's orders. The doctor said it is not absorbed but just helps her pass the BM. It helped a ton. Now at 2 years, she is fine. We make sure she does not eat too much cheese (she loves it), and occasionally she get a little mineral oil.

Cassie - posted on 03/02/2010

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depending on how thick his formula is (some moms make it thicker for bedtime idk if you do) but if he is a formula fed baby he may just be constapated and yes it does happen but if it keeps happening for a long period of time or the times between get longer then i would go see your specialist

Rachel - posted on 03/02/2010

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I would definelty go to a specialist. My lil girl had the same issue, ended up being rectal proclapse. It was pitiful. It eventually got better on it's own.

Lady - posted on 03/02/2010

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it's very normal for a breastfed baby to poop a lot less often than bottle fed babies - breast milk is perfectly made to contain everything a baby need so there is very little waste to pass through. As long as your little one seems healthy and happy in every other way please don't worry.

Roshelle - posted on 03/02/2010

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I am a Registered Nurse in labor and delivery, and a mom of 4. Breastfed all of them also. Often times, it's the mother's diet that is causing the binding bowels in the baby. Are you eating lots of leafy greens, plenty of fiber, and drinking double your water. Remember, every ounce of breast milk contains 20 calories...make them count. Don't forget that what you put into you goes into him. It might be as simple as that. If changing your diet doesn't improve his bm's, if the color of his bm's change to a strange color that your not used to seeing, in his belly seems hard and distended, then that's a problem. If the Doc blows you off, tell him your going to fire him, on the spot, and see someone with a better bedside manner. Good Doctor's know that a Mom always knows!!! Hope this helps you.

Maggie - posted on 03/02/2010

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It is quite common for BF babies to poop every 4-7 days. Our nurse said i shouldn't be alarmed (we dont have the issue, we're that other way haha way too many) But a few friends baby's around the 2-3 month mark are going once to twice a week. But every case if different. Checking with your doctor would be a good idea tho

Heather - posted on 03/01/2010

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Unless he is in pain when he has his BMs I really wouldnt worry about it especially if he is breastfed. Breast milk has very little waste, so I've read, and my son had the same problem. I was told unless I think he is in pain not to worry or if it suddenly changed. like if on average he goes once a week and your starting your second week, then I'd call the dr but really babies use a lot of what they are fed, you could also talk to ur dr about baby massage. I used to rub my little guys tummy and it seemed to help a little bit plus you can learn to recognize when he might be having trouble like being compact and such. You put 2 fingers firmly(not forcefully) on baby's lower tummy like groin area and use the other had tap the 2 fingers, if it sounds hollow baby is gasy, if more of a thud then baby probably needs a BM if he is fuzzy with the thud sound then he might be constipated. and I know a thing where you move the legs around and such but its really something that sould be shown to a parent while being explained. but sometimes putting baby on his side and rubbing tummy can help with gas/bms. the leg thing and checking for gas where shown to me by a NICU nurse and it was sooo very helpful, and i didnt need to worry as much cause I knew what to listen for.

Shannon - posted on 03/01/2010

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I would check with a local le leche group you can find them online. I breastfed both of my kids an it is true that they can go a while without having a bm, but when they do it comes. My son had problems with bm and when we would see specialist they wouldn't have anymore answers, I do have to ask if your son uncomforable, if He isn't crying all the time I would guess that He is fine.

JoNita - posted on 02/28/2010

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Breastfeeding. That was antother thing the doctor said is that he might be useing everything out of the breast milk and not having much left for waste so it might take him longer to poop.

Alicia - posted on 02/28/2010

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are you breastfeeding or formula feeding? because my daughter had this problem and all we had to do was switch her formula. my dr said when she was backed up that even 3 days is too long for a baby not to poop.

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i would go online and check to see if they have any non profit organizations that may be ab;e to help out w the extra costs

JoNita - posted on 02/28/2010

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They have done X-Rays and blood work and have found nothing. The doctors that have seen him have said watch that he doesn't get compacted and there is really nothing we can do. I know when he does go it is a lot and it will sometimes be more then once in a day. I just don't know. We don't live close to any place that specializes in infants and is covered on his insurance. I am not saying we wouldn't but more saying it is very hard for us to get him to one.

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i would def go to a specialist its easier to catch something before there is a problem then try to fix it

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