Need Birth Control Ideas

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Well, I'm pregnant right now, but I do want to get on some type of birth control when the baby is born. I have had so many problems with birth controls in the past. I am desperate to find something that works for me. Here is a list of the things I've tried and the problems I've had.

The Pill - can't remember to take for days at a time and hormones make me depressed (severely!) or aggressive towards family.

Diaphram - works great when I remember to use! lol

Nuvaring - made me physically ill to the point where I couldn't even eat, and my menstrual cramps were horrific!!! I thought I was going to die.

IUD - never tried but very leery considering all the complications I've heard about and the fact that most hormones have a negative affect on me

Obviously I will talk to my doctor when the time comes, but I would like to get some input and do some research before hand. If you have tried something that you like, please let me know about it.


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no, we just need to postpone kid #4 till after I finish my degree, not stop completely. Sorry I didn't mention that.

DH has offered to have it done when we are through having kids, but I have never felt comfortable with the idea of either of us getting fixed.

Besides a man is 56% more likely to get prostate cancer if he has had a vasectomy and 89% more likely to get prostate cancer after he has had the vasectomy for 20 years. I wouldn't want to do that to my husband.

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Thank you everyone! I did some research on NFP. I still have a lot to read, but what I've read so far really sounds right for me. Studies show that if done right, it is 99% effective (which is just as effective as any pill, implant, or IUD without the side effects). I don't really like the idea of IUDs and implants cause I have no control over it. I can't just stop it when I want. I'd have to see a doctor first, which I really hate to do.

My hubby is reading up on it too, and so far likes the idea.

Thanks again for all the help!!!

Jojo - posted on 04/16/2009




Hey I know where your coming from as I have tried so many things myself i.e The Pill like you said can't remember to take it but when I was on The Pill it gave me so much grief like back ache and I had blood clots in my legs the size of golf balls so I stopped taking them. I told my doctor I didn't want to take them anymore as the pain was so unbearable so my doctor suggested The Implant now when I had The Implant I was in a new relationship and im still in the same one we've been together for quite some time and now im expecting our 1st child.

Although I had The Implant it truly worked for me and I've recommended it to most of my friends and they've all said its better than all the other things they've tried. But most things have side affects you just have to find one that suits you.

Good Luck

Joanne Link

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I'm willing to try the NFP. I read up on it online and one of the ways to do it doesn't require me to remember to take my temp every morning. That will make it a lot easier for me. I know my cycle pretty well by now so maybe I can do it. This last time I got pregnant I basically told my husband, "I'm ovulating and not on birth control so if you decided to get frisky tonight, you've been forewarned of the consequences." We had been debating on whether to have another one or not.
I'm just always nervous that I will end up pregnant and taking care of a baby at the same time. I know some women do it, but I would go crazy!

Rachel - posted on 04/15/2009




I'd say go with NFP...from what I've heard its very reliable and very natural...hence the name I suppose :)

Donna - posted on 04/15/2009




I found the pill was causing havoc with me my periods and my hormones so after the birth of my second child i got the implant (Implanon) it's put into the arm and released the correct level of brith control over a 3 yr period, i have found it great my period has stopped completely so regular pregnancy test is needed but i found it great, and had no accidents. Due to get mine out in Sept and am at a loose about what to do if i can't get it back in straight away. Its worth checking out.

Angie - posted on 04/15/2009




I agree with Rebecca, NFP is the way to go. Not only is it the only form of birth control that does not have ANY side effects, it also requires your husband to be responsible for your sex life. It does require you to be very responsible and have some self control - but that's a VERY good thing. If you have cycle irregularities like I did (anywhere from 14 to 56 days) this is the way to go. Not only will you be on top of your fertile times, you will be able to take concrete information to your doctor to get help, but again that will only work if your doctor is not lazy. Give it a try, it was the best thing dh and I ever did for our marriage.

Brooke - posted on 04/15/2009




I'm like you...the hormones screw me up BAD !  My husband and I pretty much do the rhythm method or pull-out ( our son is almost 2 and so far no other pregnancy ) I hope you can find something that works well for you and your husband.

Joy - posted on 04/14/2009




I have the Mirena inserted. Its good for 5 years. I havent had any side effects but my periods are much lighter each month if at all.

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The NFP method is great for variable cycles because you track it each and every day.  And if your cycles are irregular long-term or you have other problems you can actually figure out why.  And remember it is NOTHING like the rhythm method :)  It is something you have to get into the habit of doing.  I didn't find it difficult, but others might!  The key is checking every time, and learning all about the method. And many (like the Creighton model) have you meet with an instructor who goes over your charts with you and answers any questions.

:) not trying to be annoying about it, just wanted to clarify since it sounds like your other options have made you pretty miserable!

Good luck with whatever you choose!

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I've tried the Depo shot, but forgot to mention it. I've gotten the shot 3 different times and none of them turned out well. First time I had my period the whole 3 months. When I got my second shot, my period finally stopped. Then I broke out in a weird rash that the doctors couldn't. I had it till the shot ran out and I didn't get the next one. A few years later, after my son was born, I decided to try it again. The same rash came back!
I do like the diaphragm, but my husband doesn't. He swears he can feel it and that it scratched him once. Since you can wear it for several hours at a time, I tried to make a habit out of putting it in right after the kids go to bed...just in case. But my problem is that I'm ADHD and can't remember to do anything on a daily basis.
I can try the rhythm method or the NFP method, but we will have to see how my cycle does. It has been different after every pregnancy.

Thanks for you ideas though

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Have you looked into Natural Family Planning?  The Creighton Model is excellent, but if you are not religiously inclined there are secular versions as well (just not sure what they are called).  You should be able to google NFP and look for things in your area.  No hormones, 100% natural.  It is work and isn't always "convenient", but we find the tradeoffs of not introducing hormones etc. into my body worth it.  You'll also learn a lot about your body and your cycle.

Oh, and this is NOT the rhythm method!  It is using your natural, observable biological markers, not estimating.

Kathleen - posted on 04/14/2009




If you're really bad about remembering to use birth control, the best option is the Depo shot. But it has loads of hormones, and if you don't react well to the Pill, then it's probably not right for you. I used Depo after my first baby, and I hated how it affected my body, so we switched to the rhythm method and condoms. Norplant and the Mirena IUD are other easy options, but the hormones could have the same effect (the Mirena is gentler, though).

The Paragard IUD is non-hormonal, so that is an option, but it has more serious side effects than the Mirena. I personally wouldn't use an IUD because it prevents implantation of an already fertilized egg. If you have issues with that, then you should be aware of that.

We stuck with condoms and the rhythm method after my second child, but then a condom broke, so we have three now. We are not willing to risk that now, and I seriously hate condoms (haven't restarted my cycle yet, so rhythm won't work), so I will be starting the Mini-Pill soon, but I don't have a problem forgetting to take them.

They do have different hormones than the standard Pill, and they're not quite as effective, but that might be an option if the standard hormones are too much for you.

If you're really serious about birth control, and don't want hormonal, then you're going to have to remember to use it. If you have used the diaphragm successfully in the past, then I see no reason to change to something else that you'd be just as likely to forget about.

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