need help please

Nicole - posted on 12/09/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 16 month old has been taking her diaper off every chance ahe gets. Should I start doing potty training with her please help

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Leela - posted on 12/14/2013

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Hi Nicole my son did this too. I tried him on the potty but he wasn't ready. He just seemed to like running around naked:) What I did is I bought him some big boy jockeys to wear over his diaper. He was so proud of them he kept everything on. Don't rush potty training but start showing your child how it works etc

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2013

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Cassandra: There's no need to be condescending to someone who doesn't agree with you. We are all human and have different opinions and are allowed to voice those opinions.

Nicole: My children were all over 1 when they trained. I always let them lead me as to when they were ready. My oldest was close to 3, my middle child was about 18 months (only because he wanted to be like his big brother) and my daughter was 2.5. It's a lot easier when they are ready because then you don't have the fights or as many accidents.
When she takes off her diaper, take her to the toilet/potty.

Jodi - posted on 12/10/2013

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LOL, it is way too young to "potty train" a 1 year old, Cassandra. To the OP, please don't feel bad because the other poster is suggesting you should have already started. People don't start training this young because it is too young - the switch in their brains is not ready. Most people don't do it. Just because the other poster seems to think you waited too long, doesn't mean she should make it out that you are wrong. Fantastic that it worked for her, but it doesn't work for most people.

Just for the record, I didn't start my kids that young, and they didn't fight potty time. Now is an ideal time to introduce her to the potty :) Don't listen to anyone who suggests it is too late.

Linda - posted on 12/13/2013

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I have never heard of starting before 2 if the child isn't ready. You could try to start now, but don't push too hard or you might scare her off if she's not ready, then you will have a harder time when she is. And don't forget there are other signs of readiness (taken from baby centre).

Physical signs

Is coordinated enough to walk, and even run, steadily.
Urinates a fair amount at one time.
Has regular, well-formed bowel movements at relatively predictable times.
Has "dry" periods of at least two hours or during naps, which shows that his bladder muscles are developed enough to hold urine.

Behavioral signs

Can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes.
Can pull his pants up and down.
Dislikes the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.
Shows interest in others' bathroom habits (wants to watch you go to the bathroom or wear underwear).
Gives a physical or verbal sign when he's having a bowel movement such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.
Demonstrates a desire for independence.
Takes pride in his accomplishments.
Isn't resistant to learning to use the toilet.
Is in a generally cooperative stage, not a negative or contrary one.

Cognitive signs

Understands the physical signals that mean he has to go and can tell you before it happens or even hold it until he has time to get to the potty.
Can follow simple instructions, such as "go get the toy."
Understands the value of putting things where they belong.
Has words for urine and stool.

But usually that 16 months is far too young, and they're not ready...a 1 year old if DEFIANTLY not ready, so starting 4-5 months ago would have hindered potty training, not helped. My daughter is almost 26 months and still not ready.

Jodi - posted on 12/10/2013

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Um, I'm a psychology major. Also a mother of several children. But thanks for the tip. Unfortunately what you are stating is not actually true though. Research has shown that the optimum age at which potty training is achieved the easiest is between two and three (the upper limit for boys, the lower limit for girls), because prior to this, MOST children do not actually have the physical capability to be able to train. Yet another study has shown that the optimum age is to BEGIN between 19 and 24 months. There is no research to support what you are saying. If you are talking about EC methods, then that is not the same as toilet training and beginning that at age one is too late anyway, so I figured that isn't what you were talking about.

Your comment about bedwetting is also not supported by research. Yes, improper toilet training was a theory that has been tossed around but it has never actually been shown to be true.

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Cassandra - posted on 12/10/2013

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Actually 1 year is the turning mark when you need to introduce potty training otherwise your child will take longer, you won't be as successful, and they will have bedwetting issues later on in life. Perhaps Jodi should do her child psychology research a little more thoroughly. Start potty training now. And with your next child, start earlier.

Cassandra - posted on 12/09/2013

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16 months?! You should have started potty training 4-5 months ago! She is definately telling you that she is ready but now she needs extra help learning what to do when she takes off her diaper. If you start at about 1 year then by the time they start doing this, they already have the basic low-down on what to do and where to go. Every time she takes her diaper off, take her to sit on the potty for 5-10 minutes. Bring books to entertain her so she sits calmly. Again this should have already been done, so now she is going to fight you more at "potty time". Its a new experience and she doesn't like it; she would have been more receptable to change but since you waited so long be prepared to have your patience tested...alot. Good luck. Its going to be a long journey.

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