Need help potty-training my 26mo. old daughter!

Melody - posted on 01/16/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My daughter has went pee on the potty twice, but only by accident! I put her on before her bath at night to get her used to sitting on it........then I give her a m&m if she sits for a minute or two. How do I get her to understand the regimen? She also tells me when she has pooh in her diaper......she says "mommy poot" , is she ready to be trained or should I wait until she shows more interest? If I ask her during the day if she needs to go "potty" she usually says no.....then if she wants to sit on the potty she immediatly points to the candy after she sits down! This is the first girl I've had to potty train and I'm not sure what to do? Any suggestions?

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Stefie - posted on 01/17/2010

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Here is a link for the sensors I mentioned: http://www.coolest-gadgets.com/20070410/... . (Or search wet diaper alarm, not seen in stores) Again, I would check with a pediatrician first.
The idea is to notify you and your child as soon as they have an accident and replace the inappropriate behavior with the correct behavior. This seems similar to potty training a puppy. Of course our children are not like dogs, but the underlying teaching method is the same. If they do not have any left to go into the toilet that is fine, you just say, "good job trying to go pee in the potty". This is supposed to reinforce the behavior quickly and efficiently. The child will very quickly know that when you go #1 it goes into the potty. I don't think they sense hard #2, but hopefully a child will notify you (or your nose will).

Marcia - posted on 01/16/2010

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I have potty trained three of my own 2 girls and a boy. No approach worked the same with any of them. My oldest daughter would have nothing to do with the reward system. She thought it was fun to sit on the potty and wait for a reward. She eventually caught on when used the watch approach. I drank plenty of water and made several trips to the restroom. Every time mommy made "tinkles", she tried too. I made a big deal about who could tinkle the longest. She liked that a lot. My son, didn't want to watch, he wanted a match box car. (wow, do we have a lot of those). My youngest daughter loved watching a Bear in the Big Blue House video called Potty Time. She pretty much trained herself. I would just start sing the potty song and off we would go to use the potty. (I agree on the no pull ups view...it seems to confuse them)

Ericka - posted on 01/16/2010

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i personally think the reward system is horrible for potty training and you may be making it harder on yourself in the long run. (i have done it both ways and learned the hard way) basically if she tells you she has gone she knows when she needs to go, my daughter was fully potty trained before she was 2 (regressing because of new baby and what not now) but it is a something you are going to have to work on. i recommend the potty watch approach. you set a timer for a set amount of time, i started with 1 hour, and every hour she sits on the potty for a few minutes to try. if she doesnt go it is ok but we try every hour so that she learns the feeling. you will need to be prepared with changes of clothes when out and about of course and it will take time. the #1 thing is once you start potty training you stick with it and when you put her into big girl panties (not pull ups) you dont go back. if you do it makes the whole thing more confusing. hope it works out for you :)

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For my potty training my lil girl was easy...she was having a bit of problem to pass it in diapers since around 6 months so i had to take her since tht age....but i used to put diapers around later on wen she was 1 year old i used to take her to potty every half hour then later on onto 1hour she was really happy 2 go as she can sit n spray the water everywhere...she was used 2 bed training also..but now as i was in much of travelling she lost tht habit and as it is winter its difficult 4 them 2 control at night so am waiting 4 the summer 2 come n 2 completely b out of diapers by tht time she will b 3 years old "in sha allah"

Melody - posted on 01/17/2010

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Thanks everyone for the good advice!! We're gonna wait a little until it warms up.....then maybe have a naked weekend to get started....hopefully after I get my 2yr. old trained.......she can teach my 11mo. old....lol!!! It cant possibly be as hard as breastfeeding, and we made it through that!

Cassie - posted on 01/17/2010

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My daughter was a little more difficult to train than my boys were. However, I did basically that same thing as to what the other moms are describing. Chloe was A LOT more dramatic about not wanting to sit there at times, so I backed off a little. So don't force it! Chloe LOVES to sing and dance so we also would do a "pee pee song" whenever she did ANYTHING....and the WHOLE family was involved in these!!!! My boys even got where they were excited for her...would tell her what a "big girl" she was now. We were pretty hit and miss with her for a while and finally one day we decided to try a quick outting in panties...well...she had a "accident" in them and we had to leave. She was SOOOO upset about leaving the restaurant that she wanted to play at that she, LITERALLY, came home said she had to "poop" and went and sat on the potty and did it! For her, I really think it boiled down having to stop doing something she wanted...and I told her, quite clearly, that we had to leave because she pooped and pottied in her panties (we could ask her where her poop and potty was supposed to go and she would tell you "stool"). I HIGHLY recommend getting serious about it when it's warm enough to run naked...that has worked for all 4 of my kids and I also have very strong feelings against pull-ups while doing this! They are SOOO much like diapers that I believe it confuses the child...it's been ok to pee and poo in diapers for 2 yrs and now they can't??? I'm not saying don't use them for trips to the grocery store or out and about...but take them off as soon as you can OR simply invest in the plastic underpants and put those over reg. panties.

I hope this helps a little...good luck!

Karinna - posted on 01/17/2010

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all the advice is good but every mommy has there own ideas. i think the reward system worked great for hannah, ater she did potty on her own the reward thing was not an issue, she doesnt expect it but i give it anyway. the sensor thing i guess for some is good but for me that takes away the experiance for me and for the kids. its hard work but at the same time its rewarding. all children are diferant and they all have there time, we cant rush them. when i ask hannah is it potty time sometimes she says no but sometimes she says yes. i think asking then reminds them per the doc advice. but its all in how each mommy approaches it. we all no our children best and what works for us. it all comes in time.

Amy - posted on 01/16/2010

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First thing I learned with mine, don't ask if they need to potty; just take the child. I usually tried to make it sound like a cool thing to do "it's time to potty!!!!" In the beginning I wasn't so strict with the timing, but eventually (when we got serious about it) I started to set a timer every hour to take my child to potty. Over time I would lengthen the amount of time between potty trips. I believe my oldest child was probably between 3 and 4 by the time her accidents stopped. My step-daughter will be 3 in April and she's been doing great at our house (just heard she recently stopped fighting with her mom about going to potty at her house). We still put her in diapers for bedtime right now, just until we're certain she can sleep through the night without having an accident. So far so good...

Melody - posted on 01/16/2010

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Stefie......lol!! Where do you get these sensors?? If they(sensors) sense when they have already gone, do you just try to get them on the potty as fast as you can and hope some of it gets to the potty?? Sounds interesting but I'm not sure they have anything like that in my "very rural" area!! Let me know!!

Stefie - posted on 01/16/2010

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I do not have experience potty training, but I am a major dork and love to read medical and scientific journals. One study I read used potty dicussion, positive reienforcement, and immediate reaction to potty train.
Basically, they talked about going potty. Then, they put sensors in the diapers of the children to sense when they go #1. When a child goes, the child and caregiver are immedialty alerted. Then the caregiver drops everything and immedialty takes the child to the potty. The child is praised for going in the potty. In two weeks 78% were trained verses 8% in the control group (group with no alarm on diaper).
I checked and these do exist. I am still researching the safety of these. So far I have not found any reason not to use these. My DD is only 16 months and can not pull down her pants yet. As soon as she gets a little better at that and I check with my doctor I plan to get a sensor for her.
Good luck

Karinna - posted on 01/16/2010

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God my hannah also use to wave bye bye to her pee pee lol. the doc did also mention taking the children to the bathroom with u as well, he said they learn what they see. i also have a 2 year old holly and she did go after the potty, also they make potty seats for the reg toilit as well, i got one of those to and that has also helped. there pretty fairly priced.

Melody - posted on 01/16/2010

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Thanks Karinna, It's so funny, my daughter's name is Hannah also. I think I'll try letting her pull her potty around...that sounds like a good idea! I take her to the bathroom with me and she likes to wave bye bye to the pee....I think she's ready. I also have a 11mo. old daughter that will probably fight for her chance to play with the potty so it could get interesting! I bought some training underwear......maybe I'll just have to see what happens? Thanks for the advice...!!

Karinna - posted on 01/16/2010

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at 1 year old i bought my first daughter her potty and let her pull it around with her, i let her sit on it while she watched tv or whatever. i did the same thing with the treat. also summer time is best to train u can let her run around nekie, put down a piece of plastic potty on top and also try putting panties on her or even the pull ups, i used panties it worked for me. and keep asking her if she is ready to sit on the potty and boast about what a big girl she is for going on the potty when she does. its realy up to any one child but these things worked for me, by 3 Hannah was sleeping in bed with just panties, now she did have accidents thats going to happen but she is 4 and no problems wetting the bed anymore. just encourage her, it sounds like your doing whats right for u and her. good luck and happy training :-)

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