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Mishka - posted on 01/20/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter's name is Mira, she is 2 years and 10 months. Born and brought up in Dubai with her grand parents, dad, uncles, aunts , friends, nursery school, all being there. Me and my daughter camr here in August and for 3 months stayed with my brother n his wife n his new born daughter, my parents who Mira is extremely close to were there as well. Mira used to miss her dad a lot as he works in dubai only and we decided till I dont get a job he wont come here as ome income is very important. In November my parents went back and after 10 days my Husband came down to canada to visit us. We shifted to a new apartment and mira enjoyed her time wid her father and me. He went back to Dubai first week of december. Mira seemed fine to me at that time. But recently i noticed a major change in her
Mira has completely stopped talking all of a sudden she does not respond to anything and is always in her own dream world. Her teachers have also called me and told me that she is not responding to them in class and they started noticing this one week after her dad left.
Sits alone when they ask her something she does not answer. They have asked me to take her to Paediatrician and that she needs some help
She does not talk to me also at all, not answering when asked something
Always sitting on her own, either tv or just lying down
Does not like to play anything gets tired very fast not making friends nothing. Im extremely tensed and thinking should I go back to Dubai? She is not my old Cheerful Mira she used to be. Im very very depressed. I need help baaad

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Jbrauer1964 - posted on 01/29/2017

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Mishkka,
That is a tough and scary spot to be as a mom. (Not knowing what is wrong with your child.) My middle daughter when she was little had a time like that. She was a little older than your daughter now, but same situation, she stopped talking. We had to try and figure out what was wrong with her. So here are a few things we tried; 1.) Our daughter loved to draw/ scribble. So we got her, her own paper tablet and we sat down once a day, sometimes twice and we gave her our undivided attention and drew with her. As long as her attention span lasted. 2.) We made special times, like a in home date night...
Do you have a regular routine you do with her everyday? Also, do you have a computer and have skype or some sort of way to visually talk to your husband over the computer? Maybe you can try setting up a regular scheduled time with your husband every night when your daughter can visit with her daddy. Once you make this a routine, she might start to come out of her little shell. Do not give up and keep your chin up!

Michelle - posted on 01/25/2017

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Maybe it would have been better to have a look at the jobs available before you went.
With the internet these days you have the world at your fingertips. There is a lot of research you can do before moving to another country. You can even get a job before arriving in another country. My ex husband and current husband have both done it.
Maybe you need to have a big discussion with your husband about what country you are going to live in and get serious about getting a job.

Mishka - posted on 01/23/2017

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Hi thanks a lot for ur suggestions. Well the plan was that I come to Canada first settle down here and get myself a job following which my husband will come. Its been 5 months and I dont have a job still

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2017

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She has had a lot of disruption in her short life. Her world used to have a lot of family in it and now they have all gone.
I see that you have 2 choices, get her into therapy to help her work through her emotions or go back to where you have plenty of family.
Why are you in Canada anyway? Why didn't you stay in Dubai with your husband?

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