need help with getting dad more involved

Sara - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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i watch my son devynn all day everyday while his father goes to work. i understand working all day you just want to come home and relax but even on his off days im watching devynn all day long. its hard cuz i breastfeed so he never wakes up in the middle of the night to feed him, he hardly ever changes his diaper, doesnt give him a bath, doesnt pick him up when he is crying unless im not in the room. i was hoping now that we are starting to feed him rice cereal he would do that but its still the same. what can i do to get him to be more involved?? please i need the help!!!

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Anna - posted on 01/15/2010

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my husband is the same way. he tries sometimes but since im with her all day everyday she would rather be with me...so he gets impatient and gives up. hes never fed her cereal or given her bath or anything..so what i do is i say im going out for an hour or so..u need to spend time with your daughter. i wishi didnt have to do it like that but it forces him to interact with her and it gives me some much needed ME time.

Amanda - posted on 01/15/2010

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Have you talked to him about it? (not fuss or yell at him) My husband was the same way with our first and in the end I found out that he was scared and he didn't know what to do. I never thought that he didn't know how to do things like how to change the baby's diaper, how to properly hold the baby or to feed them. So I showed him how and reassured him that what he was doing was correct. Good luck and I hope things get better :)

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