Need ideas to get my son to sleep in his bed and not mine.

Jennifer - posted on 02/20/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




My son is 19 months old and still sleeps in my bed. Not good. I also have a 4 month old and I do not want the same thing to happen. Any ideas help.


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With my son I made it into a big production by putting all his stuffed animals on the bed and would say pick your favorites that you want to cuddle with. I know for me it helped by acting like it wasn't a big deal and that is was fun. Maybe even play hide and seek with a few of his animals under the bed sheets. Makes it fun and light. My son co-slept with me for a very long time, but the transition was not hard as it was for some moms. Hope that helps. Maybe even get some cool wall glows so that it looks cool when the lights go off. Hope that helped.


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Jennifer - posted on 03/06/2010




I would like to thank everyone for your advise it took a week but he is in his bed now. He still gets up about 3-4 times a night but we go straight back to his bed. We have a routine so thank you again, and thank you God for giving me the strength.

Elaine - posted on 02/21/2010




my daughter went through that- when she was 14 months we said no more- put her bed up in her room, and put her in it- with a night lght on, read her a story, said good night and left pulling the door up, she would get out of bed crying- so we put her back in saying time for bed gave her a kiss and left pulling the door up, then she would et out, we would repeat this method but only saying bedtime, then she would keep going so we kept putting her back in until she fell asleep. the next day she did the same but not for as long and the third day she got out twice then after that she has not got out of her bed/room since, and has slept in her own bed since. it works very well as long as you are persistant and patient- no shouting just calm and gentle - it may take a while but it does work. good luck and dont give up on what ever way you decide to do it x x

Gwyneth - posted on 02/20/2010




I would recommend a book called, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. This has been very helpful for me in getting my little one, (5 months) sleeping through the night and taking consistent naps in her own bed. Good luck!

Erika - posted on 02/20/2010




Hi Jennifer,
I think you should start off slowly... My daughter used to sleep in our room in her pack-n-play until she was about 9 months old. I started by putting her in her crib in her room during the day for her naps. I gradually started putting her in her room at night and now she pretty much sleeps through the night in her own room. I did the same thing with my son who is now 2 1/2 years old. They're 19 months apart. I know it's tough when they're close in age. You can do it. Just start off gradually.

Hope this helps a bit.


Nadine - posted on 02/20/2010




I had the same problem, my eldest son never slept in his cot, we ended up getting him a bed, at first I had to go into the bed with him, but gradually I moved to the side on a chair and then eventually, moved to the hall. I can now put him in bed still awake and leave him to go to sleep on his own, I'm not going to lie to you it was hard but you just have to be tough and you will get through it, he is 3 now and still comes into my bed but not as much as, and getting him his own bed was the best thing I did. As for you youngest, I felt the same way, I just got into a strict rule when putting him down to make sure he was not totally asleep, or even when I seen the signs of him starting to get tried, I put him up into his cot for his nap, and would you believe it he does not like coming into my bed, he prefers to sleep in his cot!! I hope that this is of use and good luck :)

Sheree - posted on 02/20/2010




I read on here another mum's advice and I used it and it has been great. She advised to take the side of the cot of that is removable and have that side of the cot right up against your bed. that way they child still feels like they are in your bed, you can settle them if needed and they get used to the cot. When they are ready put the side back on again, get them used to that and then move them back to their room. I've done it with my daughter and we are about to put the side back on as we have only been doing it for about 4 weeks, and she hasnt spent a night in our bed since. Hope it works :)

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