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Cassie - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Ok so i have way to many things going on at once. I am a full time mom, in 1 day i will turn 21, my friend is just now back in town and i dont know when she will get to come again and i cant see her right now, we just got a house and it used to be a rental so nobody took care of it and its gross so i have to clean it, i do all the chores at the house, trying to find a part time job (maybe) i have to make the curtains for the house, i have to pack all the stuff up, on april 13th i have court because my sons sperm donor (only called that because of how much he actually partakes in my sons life) is trying to take custody from me so i am trying to find the money for our lawyer wich is like 2500, i dont trust the man and i dont want him to be alone with my son (to the point i have had dreams about my son comming back to me dead) and the judge we got told by the lawyer wont make him have supervised visitation just on the fact that he is on probation for domestic violence (bullcrap), and i still have to find a cake invitasions decorations shoes for everyone in my bridal party and get my dress fitted, and on top of anything else my son wont sleep for more than a couple hours at night.... oh did i mention that my court date is 11 days before my wedding so yea if anyone could tell me how to keep myself from losing my mind i would greatly apreciate it.

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Kristel - posted on 02/24/2010

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First of all,it sounds like you have your head on right&want whats best for your son!Congrats for that!Take a deep breath&relax!You are only one person, and can do one thing at a time!(I'm sure you're good at multitasking,being a mom!)Just try and tackle one problem at a time!You are so young!I was 21 when I had my 1st daughter.Your baby's father saying he's going for custody-that's what most guys do when they feel threatened,because they know it's the most upsetting thing to hear from a mother.I was in the same situation,needing an attorney,after a pfa,and being told I needed at least $2500 to retain services.I didn't even have $ to pay my rent,at the time!But, you know what,family pulled me through it& friends!You need a solid support system& above all try to remain calm around your son!If you're anxious/upset/hurting,etc...,he will pick up on that and share those feelings!You unknowingly will project those feelings onto him!Keep a mental image in your head of what your "goal(s)"is/are & remember that anytime stress comes into your life!I will pray for you & your son!I think just talking about it& getting it "off your chest"is the best therapy you can get!Remember, there is NOTHING you can't handle & there is always going to be someone who has it worse off than you!Be greateful/thankful for what you do haveand pray!Take care! :)

Elizabeth - posted on 02/23/2010

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It will be fine god works in mysterious ways just make sure you tell the judge about your concerns about your babys father

Jennifer - posted on 02/23/2010

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Do you live close to your mother or a mother like figure??? I always turn to my mommy for help.....or a friend.....You will get through this!!!! Just dont let it all bother you!! You only live once...live it to the fullest and love your family and it will all work out....Good Luck!!

Megan - posted on 02/23/2010

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sounds like you are on the verge of losing it! Just take a deep breath and think of who gave you that breath! God is always there for us, cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.
And it's gonna be alright! Things usually have a way of working out for the right anyway. Just focus on the things that matter most to you right now, your child, your wedding, your house, your job your looking for, etc...if you don't get to all of it right now, it's ok, your child comes first, then everything else. take a breather, re-group...stress doesn't add or deduct anything from the situations, it just makes your body ache and could give you ulcers, and all kinds of bad things...so breathe. :):)
God Bless!!

User - posted on 02/23/2010

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i will pray for you honey! Keep God first in your life. Everyone goes through something major in there life.

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Cassie - posted on 02/24/2010

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thank you everybody for your prayers i know i dont personally know any of you but it really does touch my heart. you have no idea... as for friends i only have a few anymore and i live about an hour away from where i grew up with no car... so its hard sometimes to talk to anyone but my fiance. i really do appreciate everything everyone has said

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