Need to work financially but I don't feel my son is ready!!

Caitlin - posted on 03/09/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Our financial situation stinks, but I've been able to be a stay-at-home mom for my son's first year. Initially when I was pregnant we decided I'd stay home until he was 4 to 5 years, able to talk appropriately.

I don't mind working this summer, my mom's a teacher and has the summer off to watch my baby. But when September rolls around I'm scared he'll be put in daycare too soon. Am I being too protective because I'm a first time mom, or should I push to do everything to keep me home with him??


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Tally - posted on 03/09/2010




I would love to help you out. I train moms to work from home .


Erika - posted on 03/09/2010




I know how you feel. I feel the same way. I have a 2 1/2 year old son and 1 year old daughter. Last year my DH was laid off and changed things dramatically. We have to do what we have to do. I knew I had to do something if I wanted to continue to stay home with them. I started working from home and I LOVE doing what I do. Hopefully you can find something that will work for you and your family.
Best Wishes!!


Lucy - posted on 03/09/2010




It's such a personal choice! I have plenty of friends who are working mums by choice and it works for them, but some mums really feel the need to be a SAHM and that's fine too. In the end, a happy parent makes a for a happy child, so you need to find a way to do what feels right for you and your family.

When my first child was 6 months old I went back to work, because as the main bread winner of the family there seemed to be no other way for us to manage financially. The nursery my daughter was in was lovely, and I loved my job but I just had a real urge to be a SAHM.

After a few months my husband could see I was miserable and we decided that we would make it work for me to be at home, no matter what it took. I'm not talking about just cutting coupons, growing your own veggies and buying second had everything (although we do all of the above!) we made some wholesale changes. We sold EVERYTHING we owned that wasn't necessary and had some value, my husband retrained for a job that would bring in more money and we moved hundreds of miles to an area of the UK where the cost of living was much lower, downsizing our house in the process.

I appreciate that making these kinds of huge changes wouldn't suit everyone, but for us the sacrifices were worth it to achieve the family life we wanted.

I hope this helps, good luck with whatever you decide!

Bethany - posted on 03/09/2010




Try to stay home! You are not being overprotective or crazy to want to raise your son yourself.

My husband and I have decided that it is incredibly important for me to be able to stay home with our two girls (and future children). We have made many sacrifices in our style of living in order to make it work, even when my husband was making next to nothing. I mean that literally. He was making about 15k a year for a while.

There are ways to make living cheaper. Making meals from scratch is a big one for us. Also, we have no tv, rarely go out for dinner or movies, and live simply. MSNBC did a study on two-income families and found that, unless the wife made 60k/year or more, her working actually didn't help their financial situation at all.

Christy - posted on 03/09/2010




I had to place my daughter in day care when she was about 17 months. I was really nervous, but I found a great daycare, and after a couple of weeks we both got use to it and she loved it! If you find you have to put your son in day care just be sure to do your research. Visit several places, talk to the workers, other parents etc. As long as you are able to find a good daycare your son will be fine.

Jeannie - posted on 03/09/2010




I understand your feelings in this situation completely! Day-cares can be not only expensive, but your child can easily not get the attention he deserves, and the sicknesses that he doesn't. I would recommend looking for someone who watches children out of their homes, or one who is just willing to. There are usually less children, and he can feel more "wanted". Are you planning on working a full-time job, or just a part-time? If it's just a part-time, then it's not worth it. The money you make will go to childcare.

Remember this, if you need to work, then do it. Your son will know that you love him, as long as your being the best mom you can be. That sometimes includes having to work to provide for him. Good luck!

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