needing adult conversation, and any info about how you got your children to have a proper bedtime...

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Amber - posted on 12/11/2009

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Routine, routine, routine. I've had three kids, and I feel like I am a pro at this. I had the last two of my kids in bed and sleeping through the night by 6 weeks old. Starting at 7:30, they would get their baths. Then followed by a bottle, in my arms (with the room dimly lit), and off to sleepy land. Never fails! Now the littlest ones are 2 years old and 11 months old, and it still works like a charm. Recently I've began letting my 2 year old stay up until 8:30; when I tell him that it's time for bed, he'll raise his little arms and say "g'night". It becomes monotonous trying to establish a routine, but it is something that reaps great rewards!

Octavia - posted on 12/11/2009

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I also know how you feel... Baby talk gets a little old sometimes. You know, I had to chose mine through trial and error. I tried to put my boys to bed at 8 pm and found that they woke up around 6am ready to go (especially on weekends) so I just pushed it back until I found a time that would still allow them the right amount of sleep and not have them up before the sun ~now they go to bed around 9/930 depending on our day. As far as adult convo, feel free to contact me as much as you like... Im home all day with my 3 year old and expecting another, so I completely know how you feel. Good luck

Alina - posted on 12/11/2009

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i just picked a time, 8 o clock and stuck to it. it helps to have even a small routine like washing faces and hands before bed, brushing teeth, lets them know whats gonna happen next and makes it more definitive that this is bedtime. i know what you mean about adult conversation. i get so bored sometimes and all i need is someone to talk to that i dont have to correct their words. good luck.

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Roslyn - posted on 12/19/2009

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hi i have a 3 1/ 2 yr old and a 1 yr old both boys they both go to bed at 8.30 the have a bath put there pj's on have tea wash there faces and i get my lil mans bottle and then they both go to bed

hope you get a bed time routine soon

Jessica - posted on 12/19/2009

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We have a MOPs (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers) group at my church. They meet twice a month from September to May for a couple of hours so it's not very demanding of your time, but it is a great way to spend time with a community of other moms who are going through the same things that you are. There are also Mentor Moms who are older moms there to give you advice or a shoulder to lean on if you are at your wit's end.

Nicole - posted on 12/14/2009

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I always give my daughter a bath around the same time (8:00pm). We play for a little bit and then she gets sleepy. Stick to a routine.

As far as adult convo, find some kind of club or activity (like infant/parent yoga) where you can meet others with kids.

Rebecca - posted on 12/14/2009

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I understand about the adult conversation, i do not get that much... I always get my boys ready at the same time, teeth,kisses and then story.. If they do all that and do not mess around they then get a few minutes of tv time before time for lights to be out... They must be ready by 830.... But my kids are 11,7 and 5.. How old are yours?

Joan - posted on 12/14/2009

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I agree with Alina Swart. The easiest for you, is sticking to a routine. I know, that means YOU have to stick to a routine too, but it will be worth it in the end. One day your child will say to you, "mom it's about time for bed" and you will be SO happy that you did it.

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its all about a stable routine since my son was 2 weeks old our routine has always been the same bath,story time an then bed at 9, an he is now twenty months, babies an toddler need stability in there life if you pick a time that you want them to go to sleep an start an hour before that getting them in the bath an stuff, an you have to start early ive always heard that you can start putting your baby on a routine at 2 weeks old that what i did an it work great im not sure how old your children are but they say a 1-3 year old needs 12-14 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period hope this helps

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2009

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I have found also that routine is very important. Although allowing to be flexible on occasions is important too. My oldest daughter wasn't never really a problem as most of the time it was just me and her. So I had a big need of some adult interaction at that time of my life. Now I have remarried and had twins, who are now 3. I still feel I need adult interaction as I am now a stay at home mum. My hubby works in our business 6 days a week. So I have made a point of reaching out and making new friends, and having consistant interaction with my family members. I still have a pretty clear cut routine with my twins. Some days they don't have a midday sleep, as they are starting to outgrow it. And some days they feel they really need one. I found the more they are physically and mentally stimulated the tireder they are at night time too. So if they have had a busy day at kindy. Or we have been out and about and they have been doing a lot of walking and running around, is when I have more successful nights sleep with them.

Brae - posted on 12/12/2009

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Hello Jessica. It is difficult, but it can be done. I have three children Austin 11, Riley 2, and Luke is 7mo. I have done the same thing with each, I established a solid schedule with one to two naps a day and a bedtime at 8PM. My first two were slightly easier than my third has been. Luke had colic and continues to be a very needy child and the only thing I seem to have done well that has worked is his sleep schedule. It is really important to keep very strictly to the schedule at least at first. If your child does not seem to want to go to bed at an acceptable time, but sleeps in, in the morning wake him/her up. Depending on the age I would even skip one or both naps at first while attempting to establish the night/ morning schedule. I have noticed that each of my kids needed their daytime nap at different times of day. So you may want to just watch him/her closely during the day for the sleepy signals.(usually 9-10am for morning and 1-3 for the afternoon).

Angelia - posted on 12/12/2009

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Just picked 8 and stuck to it too like the above mom. I did not go to bed with her. If you do she will continue to expect you to go to sleep with her like my SS did for over a year with his mom. Make sure you stick to it. Don't change the time once you pick one. I started the bed time with my DD about 2 weeks before she started Kinder. I sat her down told her you will start going to bed from now on at 8 so you can be well rested for school. I answered any questions and then put it into action that night. Still to this day she goes to sleep at 8 and she is 11 yrs old. She loves her bedtime and functions well going to bed that early. At 7:50 every night she brushes her teeth while I read a story to her. This has always been our routine. At 8pm she crawls into bed gets a hug and kiss and goes to sleep. Good luck! Stay strong. :)

Pat - posted on 12/12/2009

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I make sure I tell them i/2 til bedtime then 15 mins. to BT then 5 mins. to BT then get them ready read a book or tell a story about my childhood kiss each goodnight pray with them so God is the last thing on their minds. Lights out door shut not to be open until I open it in the AM. Talking to adults Aahhh sounds so good when children are little, I soOOO miss that that time now my youngest is 20 married and expecting her 2nd baby any day now. I used to meet other moms at the library or make play dates on Sundays for during the week. There are other SAHM out there you need to find so and call during nap times or when lol, U have time. Especially if your Hubby does like to listen to your days happenings, Like mine didn't. It really is a de-stressor. Good luck and remember God is always there to listen to you.

Lisa - posted on 12/12/2009

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If the children aren't falling asleep soon enough, try getting them up a bit earlier or cutting back on naptime. Also, if the kids will stay in their beds, there really isn't anything wrong with letting them lie awake for a while.

Routine, routine, routine! Good Luck!

Naomi - posted on 12/12/2009

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Generally I would tell my kids the time that they would be going to bed, then a half hour before they go to bed I would start getting them ready. Once they are in bed they have to stay there unless of course they need to use the bathroom. It depends how old your kids are too.

Andrea - posted on 12/12/2009

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It'a all about routine. Some of my friends make fun of me because I have a pretty strick schedule with my kids but you always know what is going to happen at any time of the day (well for the most part). My schedule is dinner at 5:30(ish, baths at 6:00-6:30, head downstairs for some play time, 7:30 brush teeth and do stories. Very rarely does anyone fuss anymore. Also, I taught my 3 1/2 yr old how to tell time by drawing a seven on a piece of paper and putting it next to the clock in his room. I told him he wasn't allowed out of his room in the morning until the clock matched the number. It took a few weeks but most days he adheres to the rules. I would say pay attention to your kid(s) closely and watch for when they start to act tired. Yawning, rubbing eyes, crying over silly things and the big one, hyperactivity. If they get too tired they launch into hyper mode. Some moms in my neighborhood have real trouble getting their kids to sleep so they use melatonin to help. It's non-addicitve but I would still discuss it with a pediatrician before administering. Hang in there and good luck figuring it out!

Carolee - posted on 12/11/2009

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In between 7:30 and 8pm, my fiance changes my son's diaper while I get his bottle of milk. We usually finish about the same time, then my son grabs his blanket and teddy bear, and we take him to bed. He doesn't (read: rarely) falls asleep quickly, but he knows that he is to stay in bed and be as quiet as possible. It took a lot to get him to this point. A lot of (at that special time) gathering everything up, putting him in his crib, and shutting the door behind me... then crying as he's crying. I would go in every 10-20 minutes (depending on how hard he was crying), and try to settle him down. That only prolonged it with my son, so I had to just not go in there, and let him cry himself to sleep. Hardest thing I've had to do, but he actually LOVES bedtime now.

Alina - posted on 12/11/2009

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Quoting Jodi:

As for adult convo...I think any SAHM can relate! My husband doesn't seem to understand why I want to just rattle off at the mouth the second he walks in the door! As for bedtime, my daughter is 9 mo and we have a routine. bath, pj's, read goodnight moon, cuddle for 10-15 min then into the crib. She's out within a few minutes and sleeps through until morning. What time I put her to bed depends on how much we did that day and whether or not she took an afternoon nap (sometime's she just down right refuses!). Feel free to add me to your circle if you ever want to chat!


my hubby cant figure it out either! its funny. i get so bored and lonely throughout the day that i just need someone to talk to by the time he comes home. and it helps that he comes home after they are in bed. so i am ready to know every detail of his day and share every detail of mine....lol.

Jodi - posted on 12/11/2009

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As for adult convo...I think any SAHM can relate! My husband doesn't seem to understand why I want to just rattle off at the mouth the second he walks in the door! As for bedtime, my daughter is 9 mo and we have a routine. bath, pj's, read goodnight moon, cuddle for 10-15 min then into the crib. She's out within a few minutes and sleeps through until morning. What time I put her to bed depends on how much we did that day and whether or not she took an afternoon nap (sometime's she just down right refuses!). Feel free to add me to your circle if you ever want to chat!

Rhonda - posted on 12/11/2009

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I agree with picking a time on the clock and sticking to it but you also have to make sure that if they are young that they spend enough energy throughout the day to be tired at that set bedtime. I find that if my toddler naps too late in the afternoon, it is harder for him to get to bed at 8pm. I read to him and try to make things as quiet as possible to help him wind down.

Stefie - posted on 12/11/2009

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We start bed time for our 15 month old at 7:30 and she is out by 8pm. We do a bath, lotion, pjs, story, and rocking with a bottle till she gets really sleepy. We do it every night, and it seems to work.
I enjoy going on this site often and just regular face book. I also try to get out with my little one and join community events geared toward moms and small children. I find that it is very hard to have adult conversations with non mothers since so much of my life is devoted to my little one. Finding other mom's in your community with children of similar ages seems to really help since you will face many of the same problems. Also, with a little one it becomes hard to relate to others with out children, your lives are just different.

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