needing attention

Liz - posted on 02/24/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




My 6 month old, boy, needs my attention every awaken moment. I can't get anything done around the house. If I am not giving him the attention he wants then he is scream crying. Does anyone have any suggestions?!?!


Morgan - posted on 02/24/2009




all i can suggest is leave him alone. I know someone who has a baby like that. My friend can't get anything done cause she HAS to have here babay in her arms. She can't put the baby to bed or even down to play. I would say to you,to put your son in a pack-in-play and put him next to you while you do the dishs or whatever. He will probley cry but you have to understand that he is not crying because he's hurt or in pain. He is crying because he wants to be held. Don't pick him up!!!!! Keep doing what your doing to help him understand that it is OK to play by himself. Start slow like 10min at a time 3-5 times a day. And work your way up in mins and eventully he will understand that even tho he's not being held that your still there! The main thing is to understand that he's not hurt when he's crying he's just mad. And if you give in everytime then he will always know that all he has to do is cry. Same princpals apply when tring to get a baby to sleep at night. They have to teach themselfs to self sooth. If they can't do it they will never be able to go to sleep and stay asleep on there own!

hope that helped a little


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Allen9612 - posted on 02/24/2009




the saucer is great I have had it with 2 of my 3 kids and it is a great way to keep their attention. But like Alicia said just make sure they can see you while playing and you'll be good to go usually.

Aimee - posted on 02/24/2009




My second one was very much like this.  He seemed to want my undevoted attention.  Some things that worked for me were to make sure I moved him around the house with me and varying his activities.  Playing in the pack 'n play, he still enjoyed the swing, he enjoyed his exersaucer, floor time with different types of toys: sometimes rattles, sometimes the bigger playmat types of floor toys, sometimes I would use a Baby Bjorn as somebody suggested (great brand BTW, IMO).  I would keep a conversation going with him and tell him what I was doing, I think hearing your voice is reassuring to them.  When he got fussy, I found that singing would sometimes help.  Sometimes having the radio or TV on would help, or sometimes even vaccuuming.  I had no problem letting him fuss a little bit too.  But that was just me.  Oh, I would also prop him up to a sitting position with pillows (he could almost sit anyway, just had plenty of cushion around him).  Those were some things that worked for me.  Hopefully you can find something that will work for you.  Let us know!!

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I was told around 6 months to kinda let her cry it out as long as he isn't like hysterical try leaving him in the pack n play with toys  maybe a tv on and talk to him while you do what it is u need to

Alicia - posted on 02/24/2009




Oh son Lucas is doing the exact same thing. He is also almost 6 months. It is so frustrating. He used to play quietly in his pack n' play for 45 minutes. Now he screams as soon as I put him down. The only time he doesn't freak out, is if he's playing on the floor, right beside where I am.

Some things that have sort of worked for me so far are:
-drap a blanket over the side of the pack n' play, so Lucas can't see me coming and going in the room, and is distracted by the toys

-Keep him in the room with me, and try to accomplish all my tasks in that room at one time, and then move us to the next room.
-Sit him in my lap, or laying beside me on the couch while I am folding the laundry.
-A baby bjiorn carrier, pack him along with you.

I'm also waiting on an exosaucer, which I've heard is great for the 6 month old who just wants to be by all the people...sitting up!

Hopefully it gets better for you soon...I know how hard it is to be trying to keep the little one happy, while the house is a disaster around you, espeically when the hubby is due home any minute!!

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