Needs to vent...

Brittny - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




I know I'm in the same boat as everybody else, but sometimes it's just so bleak. 2 kids in 2 years (2yo and 3mo) - one income (my husbands, and not very much for a fam. of 4), which equals to no money. My husband doesn't want me to work and to be honest I don't really want to put my kids in daycare (had to with my older child and I cried every single day). All of that I can deal with...this is the wringer - we have 2 vehicles, only one of which I can drive(automatic), and it just so happens that that is the one that is broken down. Without the money to bring it to the shop, my husband is the one fixing it on the weekends when he's not at work. Therefore, the only way to leave the house is when I need groceries/dr. appt and have to ask family to bring me, and my husband is gone to a friend's shop to work on the truck on the weekends.

There is no solution, time will take care of the situation... he is currently looking for a better paying job, I will go back to work in the near future, and eventually he's GOT to be finished with the truck - right?

Losing my mind in this house - haven't gone anywhere but the grocery store and dr.'s in 3 weeks - and my husband just got home to tell me that he wasn't going to be able to fix everything on the truck this weekend. That means a solid month for me in this house with 2 kids - cooking, cleaning, screaming and crying.

I love my children AND my husband, and really life is good.

But moments like right this instant make me feel like I might know how prison feels (except with better food.)

Anyway, thanks for letting me complain. I feel


Polyleah - posted on 10/13/2009




Hello Brittnay, without asking where you live specifically, are you near any public transportation? Are there events you can do in the area, and take your kids just to get out. We have been a one care family for years, and I just could not take it in the house all the time. My husband works an hour away, so even when he got home, It would be too late for me to go anywhere but the grocery store, so I would find local events and take my babies with me via bus or train. They got used to it, yes it can sound a little overwhelming but I did it. Just for my own sanity, and now my kids know they can be resourceful and that obstacles can be overcome. But I can only imagine what your are going through if you do not have those options. Hang in there.


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Jill - posted on 10/11/2009




i hear ya Brittany.... 1 income 3kids 7,4,1.... being a stay at home mom is full of sacrifice ... mostly on the stay at home mom....the benefits outweigh the issues... its even more difficult when they are soooo young.... when i talk to other moms it's like they are living my life... so putting it in perspective.. 99% of stay at home moms are in the same boat.... isn't it nice to know we all feel the same way.... i will be praying for you.... God bless you...

Allison - posted on 10/11/2009




You are totally right, things will get better! Just remember to inform your husband how you feel. Though he should know that your stuck in the house you need to remind him that you are feeling like your trapped in a cell. You two should take a night out that would make you feel much better. No money involved just take kids to family and go for a nice long walk or take a nap together. Any time will make you feel better, in which will make your family feel better.

Shannon - posted on 10/10/2009




I know how you feel about never getting out of the house. My husband works out of state and has been gone now for over a month. It is more or less like I am a single mom. The only time I seem to be able to get out of the house is do take my oldest children to school, pick them up, dr. appt. and shopping. I dont have many people around here that I know except my next door neighbor, that I really dont care for because she has a mouth like a sailor and speaks to her children like they are dog crap, and my mother in law that I rarely ever see even though she lives about a mile and a half down the street. I also feel like the world has completly forgotten that I am still here. I tried to get out of the house today and my jeep broke down on me 3 times. It completly sucked. Best of luck to you and your husband on getting a better paying job and fixing that truck.

Chivon - posted on 10/10/2009




Gosh I feel for you! Your truck will get fixed soon and when it does drop your kids off at a family members house and take some "you" time.. Hang in there, things will get better in all areas of your life, be positive..

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