Neighbors unattended kids... Need advice.

Wyntersawyer29 - posted on 02/22/2018 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies. I need y'alls advice. I'm new here. I've read y'alls posts before and finally decided to join the community. I live down a sort dirt road with 4 houses down it. A very small little neighborhood.My neighbor directly next door has two small children. A 4 year old and a 2 year old. Plus two puppies. She lets her puppies run wild all over the neighborhood,they come into my yafc and tear out my trash and I have a 100lb Belgian malinois who is outside during the day time on a lead so I don't have to worry about walking him 8 or more times a day because he is too strong for me to walk on my own so I take him out every morning and put him on his running lead and he hangs out outside all day and then he comes in at bedtime. My yard is not fenced but there are trees to differentiate between my yard and hers and she also knows my dog doesn't like other animals and doesn't care for strange people either. She also lets her two children run wild and unattended all over the neighborhood and never so much as sticks her head out of her front door to check on them. So they come in my yard and play and ride bikes all over my front and back yard without my permission unwanted and knowing I have a dog that's capable of biting and seriously hurting her children. & they have also stolen off of my porch the other day. I was wanting to plant a veggie and herb garden and have little pretty garden statues but I told my husband I no longer wanted to because i know they'll kill my plants and steal the statues thinking they are toys. They leave their bikes in my driveway where my husband has to get out of his car and walk them over to their house every night and she makes no effort to make them pick their toys up or stay out of my yard. Might I add I have a 13 month old and a 1 month old my children aren't old enough to really play outside with slides and bikes and things like that so I don't have any yard toys yet and I more than likely won't unless my husband gets the yard fenced in because they will think that's an invitation to play and I am not the neighborhood babysitter and my husband thinks I'm mean for not liking the kids in the yard but I don't want to be sued and held liable and have to pay medical bills for those children if they get injured on our property and we have no trespassing private property signs and beware of dog signs but that had made no difference. What should I do? I'm really fed up with things being stolen and them littering in my yard and even just being in my yard and antagonizing my dog. If he bites one of them I refuse to have him put down because they have no business or permission to be in my yard.

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Stef - posted on 10/03/2018

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Oh dear! I sound like that terrible mother who lets her kids run riot round the neighborhood! We live in a little no exit street, down here in New Zealand, with about twenty houses....I have to say my kids play anywhere, on the street, pavement, front properties....pretty much anywhere they want! The woman next door actually let my boys inside her house, when we first moved in to the street...now they're over there all the time, running round her house, jumping on furniture and having an awesome time!

Personally I think you're worrying too much about it all, obviously it a perfectly safe neighborhood for them to do this, I guess the mother is a "free range' parent who lets her kids explore and have fun....to me thats fucking awesome, and certainly the philosophy I've adopted in bringing up my kids

Michelle - posted on 02/23/2018

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This sounds different as the Mother doesn't care what her kids do and they are so young.
Yes, at 8 and older I would meet up with the neighbourhood kids at the local park but not at 2 and 4!!!! That is way too young to be running around unsupervised.

Ashley - posted on 02/23/2018

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back when i was growing up (I'm only 25) on my small "lane" i grew up on my parents let us run wild too, so i can't say much. i was that kid, but the yards were fenced in, and if we got in trouble for bothering a neighbor, my parents found out because the neighbors were close, my dad was friends or acquaintances with all the neighbors in the NEIGHBORHOOD, so we'd be in trouble if we did anything like picked a neighbors planted flowers and were caught, or ding dong ditched one to many times or whatever.
that being said the neighbors were VERY forgiving of the children on the street it was ALL the kids on the street allowed to just run around all afternoon, not just us so all the neighbors where very, understanding i guess to a point, and friendly with each other as to say they wouldn't get into an argument about up ding dong ditching or my sister actually as a young young kid SCRATCHED her name into the neighbors car with a key cuz she just learned to write her name, innocent girl, didnt know, not to be mean. my dad had to fix it, the neighbors were still friends, like neighborly family.
id say don't go over angery but if you can try to make a neighborly family connection with the parent because y'all live right next to each other, your like family and then talk to them about the serious things like hey little johns been playing near spike who can bite him. or little johns been picking my veggies in the window I've been trying to grow.
"it takes a village" comes to mind ;) good luck!

Michelle - posted on 02/22/2018

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You really need to make it clear to the Mother that if her children are on your property and they get bitten by your dog then it's not your fault as you have told her that your dog can bite.
You also need to document that she has been informed in writing.
Maybe you need to get your yard fenced as that will help to stop them coming onto your property.

Wyntersawyer29 - posted on 02/22/2018

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Also yesterday I had my glass door open to let sunshine in and the little boy came on to my porch 3 times in about 5 minutes trying to let himself into my house to get to my 13 month old and I repeatedly said no he isn't allowed in my house or on my porch and he continued coming backup the porch to open the door and try to come in and then tried digging in my recycling beside my porch and i had to tell him to get out of it and stay off of my porch. I have made it very clear I don't want them over here

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