Nerves after Pregnancy?

Kayse - posted on 11/23/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have never had really good nerves or deal good with stress, oh it will change once you are a mother which i do believe! However I do have my days to where I could just pull my hair out scream and cry, especially when there is a hundred things to do and my son is crying nonstop. How do I stay calm and not frystrated bc he can tell and it just makes him worse!

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Kayse - posted on 11/29/2009

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yes i am on zoloft already for it and it works but some days are just worse than others and i tried taking him to stay with mama for a few hours and it seems like he coomes back worse???

Danielle - posted on 11/26/2009

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Being a mother is hard work. At times it's stressful, tiring, frustrating, etc... If you had problems with stress before, don't look for it to just go away after having a baby. If anything it adds to it. Children are a blessing, but a lot of times we need to keep reminding ourselves that on a daily basis:) I have 4 children (2 with ADHD), and I can understand. Try taking a step back and take a deep breath and give yourself a minute to cool off, think positive, or even cry. It's ok to cry, just do it away from the baby. Give yourself a few minutes in the bedroom to let it out. Sometime that helps. If you find yourself getting angry a lot or throwing tantrums yourself ( you'll know what I mean), maybe see a doctor. A lot of women (including myself) get post pardon depression after having a baby, even a couple of years after. It doesn't mean your a bad mother, it just means you need a little help. Who doesn't?

Annie - posted on 11/26/2009

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I have three kids 4,2 and 10 months and it is so stressful alot of times. The worst is when I am trying to make dinner. All three kids seem to all demand my attention all at once. The kids feed of of my stress and so when my husband comes home you can really feel this tension in the air and he is automatically sucked into this caotic scene. What we finally decided on is that when he gets home a I will leave the house for a hour. Not every day but a couple here and there. The result: the kids dont demand his attention like they do mine, they enjoy having him spend time with him, they calm down, my husband feels more relaxed, I destress and regain my sanity. When I come home everyone is happy to see me and we have a more enjoyable evening vs craziness untill all the kids are in bed and I am sitting there like a veggitable with my eye twitching. It's not a cure all but it has set a basis for me to work from.

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Also I was the same way when my son (nearly 1) was born, and in the end I just decided that the rest of it could wait. My first job though out the day is to take care of my Joshy, eveything else can wait. As to crying my husband said to my son once "go on keep crying i can outlast you" at the time I thought it was a bit over the top, but the next time he was like that i thought about what my husband had said, and it filled me with a calm, Josh may cry and cry for an hour, or a few hours but eventually he needs to sleep, and he'll stop, and I will have "won", truely it made me feel so calm, and that ofcourse settled him quicker.

Melanie - posted on 11/25/2009

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Well. Let my start off my saying that I'm not a real religious person but lately I've had so much stress that all my husband and I did was argue of stupid thing. I hit rock bottom when I could even get dressed and all I did was lay on the couch all day. So one day I started reading the bible and it gave me soo much peace of mind. Now when ever I need a time out I just read a bit and it work. That's another thing that time for you. Give yourself a break. Not everything has to be done in one day.

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