New Mom questions

Sarah - posted on 09/19/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




So I'm a first time stay @ home mom with a 2 month old. I hope no one finds this rude but...What do I do with her all day?
We just moved into a new apartment so there are a ton of things I could be doing for the house but I don't want to "ignore" her by leaving her in the swing or lay&play in between bottles & diaper changes. Am I being paranoid? I love my daughter more than anything in this world and want to make sure she knows it but she's a little young to be Mommy's Little Helper. lol Any advice on how this works?


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With my first I "dragged" her around with me from room to room to clean. I would talk to her about what I was doing and why. She loved the swing so like if I was in the kitchen doing dishes I would explain to her what I was washing and repeat the word. Like if I washed a cup I would take the clean cup over and repeat the word cup and point to it. At that stage she looked at me like I was crazy but I did notice as she got older she loves to clean and it helped with her vocabulary. My second I did the same only letting my oldest "help" by showing her things.

Jenni - posted on 09/19/2010




I still feel that way with my second. I usually get the work done during her naps. It is ok for her and probably good for you and her to have a little independant play. You can keep her in the room where you're working and sing to her, talk to her about what you're doing or other things, stop every now and then to play a little peek-a-boo, recite ryhmes. Pretty soon she'll be old enough to grasp things and you can let her inspect (safe) household items in the room you're working in. Like a egg beater in the kitchen or an oven mitt. If you're still unpacking you can sit her next to you in an infant chair or blanket on the floor and show her different items you're unpacking. Just get creative!


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Michelle - posted on 09/20/2010




When I First had my son . I felt the Same and Really that Young they Sleep a lot and Eat And Poop lol I would Take him around in his Bouncy Seat or put him in his swing when I had Laundry to do . When I Fed him after I Would snuggle and cuddle him . Make him smile . When he was older I would Play in his busy seat loved that thing and he also did very much so . You will get into a Groove . When you need to do things around the The Apartment take the baby around in the bouncy seat or bassinet . They Grow so Fast Enjoy this age ..I so miss it !!!

Cara - posted on 09/20/2010




Lol. It is hard to just "leave them to play in a swing" or something but as a SAHM with my daughter I also learned that them learning to entertain themselves some is a good thing. You don't want her used to you holding her 24/7 and entertaining her otherwise when she gets older she is going to expect the same and you'll never be able to get anything done. I used to put my daughter in her swing in the living room if I was in the kitchen or living room cleaning and I would talk to her or sing to her. I would sometimes have her in her bouncer too where she would still see and hear me but I wasn't holding her. I'd give her a toy or something to look at and play with.

Candy - posted on 09/20/2010




I would talk to her. I talked to mine all the time. I would do tummy time in the evenings but when ever you want to is fine. That was time for her to work on crawling. I am sure if you are in the room and talking to her she will be happy. You dont have to entertain her every min.

Renae - posted on 09/19/2010




At 2 months she is best stimulated by looking at different things, different shapes, colours etc; and listening to different sounds like you singing or music. She will be utterly interested in you talking to her and watching your face move and you making different sounds. So anything you can do that will stimulate her in these ways is wonderful for her development. Think about the 5 senses: touch (rub different textures like feathers and things on her hands and feet), sight, sound, smell (there are all sorts of interesting smells, sights and sounds to be found just going for a walk). and taste - except she is too young to be tasting anything!

Also remember that being left by herself for a little while is not a bad thing. This is called independant play and its a big help during the separation anxiety stage if they are already used to playing alone (this is a normal stage of psychological development that peaks at around 6 months in girls and ends just after they start crawling).

At 2 months she also still needs lots of sleep. She should be able to stay awake for about an hour at a time. So if you feel like she is sleeping the day away, she isn't bored, its what she should be doing. By 6 months old its about 2 hours. Hope this helps a bit. :)

CANDY - posted on 09/19/2010




Hello Sarah, I have a 2 1/2 month old baby so i totally know what you are going through!! :) Well what i do is i have a bouncer i carry with me all throughout the house when im cleaning. I Let him know what im doing sing to him and make funny faces and show him certain things like the dirty clothes, broom, dishes to keep him entertained and well he loves it because he is watching me and seeing my in some instance i think he feels i am playing with him :) i usually feed him and take care of his necessities start with one room. take a lil brake hold him talk to him in my arms or read to him etc 30 mins later take him to the kitchen than take another brake than another room etc..during that time he gets a little tired i take a brake an focus on him and well he naps. during that time i relax watch some tv and eat than when he wakes up i continue :) its all about trying what works best for you but the bouncer is such a great investment :) good luck :)

Lisa - posted on 09/19/2010




You spend time with her. Talk to her, sing with her while you're working around the house. Throughout the day play with her, read to her, etc.

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