New to SAHM - drowning in routine, any advice welcome

Katerina - posted on 03/15/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My amazing daughter is now 11 months old and with maternity leave coming to an end in 2 months I decided to resign to focus on raising my baby.

That was a month ago and now becoming sahm is sinking in. I seem to be drowning in routine. Instead of playing with my baby and taking her for walks I seem to be tidying the house after my messy hubby, going to supermarket and cooking family dinner. Weekends are worse because with hubby at home the house becomes an explosion and instead of relaxing while he looks after our daughter I keep tyding!

It's beginning to drive me crazy all the cooking and tidying. I had one he'll of a career and although I don't regret giving it up I didn't anticitrate this influx of house work! It's taking over. I have a part time cleaner and nanny but its still getting out of control.

Ladies if anyone went through similar transition and found a way to deal please share

Xx

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Katerina - posted on 03/18/2016

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Wow four! Amazing and we'll done! That is a different level altogether! I think when number two arrives I will look back and think oh one was easy what was complainone about!

Katerina - posted on 03/17/2016

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Thank you Sarah E :) all valid points. Having read your reply actually got me thinking that my problem is my expectations of becoming SAHM. Before baby and because of my work I had an asisstant who handled a lot of things, a driver when I worked late and my hours were 9am till past midnight. I probably did food shopping once a month and cooked as often just for fun. I didn't plan my wedding, my wedding planner did. Because I ran 3 international teams and had no life I outsourced everything I could. My time was simply worth more. Obviously the transition is hitting me in the face. I have plenty of hobbies and I take my daughter to playgroups. I'm even launching a Pilates studio as it's always been my dream for when I become a stay at home mum and quit my industry. I am also project managing the build of our family home. But still the tidying and cooking and laundry is so mind numbing and tideous. And you are right it bores me to tears. It's unbelievable that for every hour I play with my baby I then need to spend 20 min putting things back in order! Having said all that spending time with my baby is worth it and I could never be a hands on mum with my job so I'm happy I resigned. Maybe it's just an adjustment period. Maybe in one year I'll settle into it and laugh looking back at how house work got to me. But you must admit it's not the most fun thing in life!

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