New to the group and a new SAHM

Kasey - posted on 10/29/2008 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi, i just joined the group and I have only been a SAHM for about 2 months. I just got out of the miltary and just had some questions!! My husband works all day and when he gets home we split the work, but since he is going to work should I be doing everything at night too? I just feel like I also work so hard during the day with the kids that when he gets home he should help out. He doesn't ever complain, but sometimes I feel guilty, even though I don't think I should. Any advice?


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Amy - posted on 12/14/2009




Your husband sounds like a great guys for helping. I don't think that you should feel guilty letting him help you; you work just as hard as he does at home all day. One thing I could suggest is, let your husband have 30 minutes to adjusts to being home and then it will be easier for him to give you the help you need.

Rebecca - posted on 10/29/2008




you are VERY lucky! My husband comes home and MAYBE will change 1 diaper a week and feed the baby once or twice a week, and that's only because I ran off to take a shower or something as soon as he came home just to get some me time.

Kimberly - posted on 10/29/2008




haha! Be grateful. Keep communication going how you both are feeling about the shared work. Your family is blessed to be balanced. Like you said - you worked so hard all day too. And I find since I've been a stay at home mom one of the hardest things is you don't get to go home at the end of the day for a change of pace. You're at work constantly. Give him a hug, tell him he's the best and feel grateful not guilty.

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