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Kali - posted on 06/26/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone, I just joined because I am looking for other SAHM to talk with and learn from. I was on the Babycenter.com site...but not so much of a fan anymore. I have an almost 2 year old girl and found out I am 6 week along with #2. I am excited but very nervous as well and it makes me feel bad because honestly the nerves are out weighing the excitement at this time because I worry, Will I love this baby as much as my daughter? staying home with 2 kids? What if my daughter doesn't like the idea of a new baby. and soooo much more. I hope it passes!!

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Nikki Dawson - posted on 07/05/2013

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What is wrong with babycentre? I love that place. LoL. Congrats on your new baby on the way!

Erin - posted on 07/04/2013

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I have two little boys-my oldest just turned 2 and my 2nd is 3 mths. I wondered all the same things as I waited for my 2nd to be born. It was especially hard to imagine sharing my time and love with another child since I love my first boy SO much. But the first moment I laid eyes on him in the delivery room I had no question I already loved the new little guy so much. Which was different than with my first. It took me a little longer with my first to really feel that-maybe because the first birth was so surreal. It's definitely a daily worry for me to make sure I am giving both boys equal quality time, but I think I worry about it more than they do. And my 1st just loves his new brother. We let him hold him from the beginning and make sure he knows its ok to hug and interact with him as long as he is gentle (supervised of course). I think keeping them involved or making them think they are is key! I also try to take a few minutes every day to snuggle with my oldest. He loves when I pretend he's the baby and pretend to burp and rock him. His face just lights up. You will find what special things work for you. It will just happen naturally!!

Kali - posted on 06/30/2013

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Thanks for all the great tips and encouragement! Being a mother is truly life changing in the best way! It sure is hard at times but it is the more fulfilling thing I have ever done with my life. The love of kids is truly one of a kind

Lawrenza - posted on 06/29/2013

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Hello I'm new here as well I have 7 kids one boy who is 15 5 girls 14 12 10 5 & 3 mons and one son died at birth and u will love all ur kids as much as u do the first one no matter how many u have. Trust me I'm a stay at home mom so two kids r great try 6 lol it's a hand full but so fun I wouldn't change it at all. Congrats on the new baby

Regina - posted on 06/29/2013

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It will I got 2 girl,,a 2 year old 4 year old..............when my youngest wa first born her sister was a little jealous but then she started loveing on her wanting to hold and be a big sister when she started walking my oldestg loved it more and now they love eachother and play all the time.......they protect eachother if someone is messing with youngest her big sister will take up for her its so cute....don't worry at first it hard but show them both love its gonna be stressfull and hard but after well it gets easier when ur baby starts walkin it'll get easier .........

Jessica - posted on 06/28/2013

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Hi,
I have a 4 1/2 year old boy and a girl who will be 9 months on the 9th. I went through the same worries. The biggest piece of advice I can give you is to get the oldest just as excited about it as you are. With her only being 2 I'm sure it won't be quite as simple as it was for me but getting her involved now and when the baby comes will make the transition so much easier. With my son I took him with me to all the Dr appointments, let him feel my belly when his sister would kick, had him talk to her all the time, etc etc etc. And when the baby came I had him talk to her with me and hold her as much as I felt comfortable, and stuff like that. It's hard to imagine that you can love another baby just as much but you somehow do. I'm sure you'll be fine. Feel free to add me on Facebook if you have it: Jessica Joulie. My profile pic is a close up of me and my daughter. Hope this helps. :)

Katie - posted on 06/27/2013

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I am new too! And try to enjoy this time. It will take a long time to get to know baby number two. But yes you will live him or her just as much! No one will replace your first-born and there will always be a special bond between you. You should also know that same bind will form with your second. :)
And in regards to your first not loving your second... When number two comes have your daughter help when she can. And keep some of the rituals that you do with her now after baby is born. It made a huge difference when I had my second. The transition went smoothly because I was able to do some special things with my first born and keep many of our routines, etc. Trust that you will find your way. :)

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