night time

Sabrina - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




my little girl is nearly 2 and she still wakes up in the middle of the night to come into my bed. its not really bothering me but it bother's my partner and would like some tips on how to either reduce the amounts of times she comes into our room or to completely stop her n gettin her to stay in her room the whole night,...........Thanks


Kim - posted on 05/19/2010




With the good night routine, we told ours that we would see them when the sun is up. When they came in, we would say nothing and walk them back to their room, kiss them on the forehead (checking for a fever) and leave the room. After a couple of times, they knew 'the rules' and came in when it was light outside.

I like blaming 'the rules' for such things. Kids can't argue with 'the rules' it doesn't have a face. It is just a fact.

If a new baby has brought this on, praise him during the day for the things he can do that the baby can't. Ask for his help in choosing clothes or toys and such so he can see there are advantages for being 'big.' At night praise him for being a big boy and sleeping in his 'big boy bed.'

If that still doesn't work, you can use a sticker chart with a set goal for a reward. Every night he stays in bed, he gets a sticker. When he has 5 stickers, give a reward. Then change it to ten. After 3 rewards, he should be finished with this phase and the chart goes away or is used for the next issue you want to work on.

Stay firm with 'the rules' I have used them for almost 13 years now. They work!


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Elyssa - posted on 05/18/2010




My son just recently started doing the same thing. I think it is because he feels left out. We had our daughter a few months ago, and that is when he really started coming into our bed. I tried putting him back into his bed, then he falls asleep, but within an hour he is back in our bed, half of the time I don't even know how he got in there! It's become an all night process, and with a new one, it's become nearly impossible to get any rest unless he is in our bed! I'm stumped as to fix this problem without losing my sanity! if you find a way, let me know!

Kristin - posted on 05/18/2010




I told our soon to be middle child that he could go back to his own bed or grab a blanket and sleep on the floor. His choice. After walking him back over and tucking him in, he started staying there again. Just be consistent about whatever you choose to do.

Kelina - posted on 05/18/2010




I agree with Jennifer you need to be consistent. Take her back into her bedroom, put her into bed and tell her you love her then walk out. If she continues to come out of bed, just take her hand and put her back to bed saying nothing. AFter a few nights she'll get the message that that's her bed and she belongs there. Good luck!

Lory - posted on 05/18/2010




we did the sleeping bag on the floor next to our bed, she got to be close, but we got to sleep without being kicked!! she wont be doing it at 16! thats the way i looked at it!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/18/2010




You just have to be really consistant. As soon as she comes into your room, take her back to bed. Try not to turn on any lights, or make a big deal out of it. If you give in even once, it will only make it that much harder.

Jonna - posted on 05/18/2010




I think it's a stage she's going through. You need to make it clear that she is not to sleep in your room. you will have to be firm about tucking her back into her bed to sleep. Give her plenty of cuddles at bedtime in her bed and when you put her back to bed the first time, but if she continues to get up just say "it's bedtime now you need to sleep in your bed" and put her back in her bed over and over and over if you have to. It's normal behavior for her age I think, but you'll need to stop it now if you don't want her sleeping with you till she's 10. Good Luck

Nicole - posted on 05/18/2010




Could you put a mattress on the floor next to your bed? This way she could be in the room but not bother your partner.

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