Night time sleeping

Sohee - posted on 12/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My son is 6 months old now and until he was about 5 months old, once he goes down for night time sleep, he'd stay down. Now he'll go to sleep for about an hour and then wake up for about 20-30 mins. Nothing has changed. It's getting really frustrating. What could be the problem? HELP PLEASE!


Michelle - posted on 12/18/2009




Oh my god ok. I am SUCH a firm believer in the method we used that I'm so excited to tell you about it. We found it in "What to Expect the First Year" and it's GENIUS!!!! I'm a big believer in kids learning independence, so this was awesome for us. What you do is set up a clear bedtime routine, ours was dinner, bath, two books, a song and then bed. Then you lay your child down, say your goodnights and leave. When (because obviously....) they start crying, wait five minutes, and go comfort them without any eye contact or picking them up. That's VERY important. You can touch and talk, but don't make eye contact or pick them up. Then leave. Wait ten minutes this time, then go in again. Then wait 15, then 20, and so on and so forth. We started this when our son was three months old. The first night he cried for like two and a half hours (because we'd been rocking him to sleep and such so it was a sudden transition, which the book actually recommends). The second night he cried for 25 minutes. The third night he only cried for 10. Then he just started going to sleep. He's been sleeping through the night ever since (with the exception of the bottle he needed for a couple more months, and then now when he's sick or something wakes him up, of course). This method is AMAZING!!! It's killer listening to your kid cry, I know, but independence from you is something that is seriously best taught early. Plus this way you both get more sleep so you're both in better moods.


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Stephanie - posted on 08/21/2013




My kids are wonderful sleepers, and I did and feel the same way as Michelle. But all mt babies at some point or another would wake up in the middle of the night and just babble. I never went in there, and its pretty awesome to hear them teaching themselves. With every stage of development mine have always practiced at night when they should have been sleeping. Crawling,sitting up,standing,walking,talking.

Jabka - posted on 08/20/2013




My son is 7 months he wakes up at night 2 time, from hunger he will have les than 2 0z milk. Or breast than go back to sleep.

Renae - posted on 12/18/2009




25% of babies who have their parents with them when they go to sleep suddenly stop being able to go to sleep and start waking at night between 5 and 12 mo, 5mo is most common. You can either wait it out, there is a greater than 60% chance he will go back to normal within 1-3 months on his own (also 40% chance he wont). Or you can teach him to go to sleep on his own.

To teach him to go to sleep and sleep through the night you have several options. No-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.

If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. I am not an advocate of control crying or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method and leave him to figure out he is supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to his cries so that you know if he needs you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.

The most common no-cry option is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks.

Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method.

There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).

Ashlye - posted on 12/18/2009




My daughter is 6 months, she started sleeping through the night at about 4 months, she would sleep the entire night, but lately she would go to bed, and then also wake up for a short period of time. What i normally do is either try to give her a bottle, because sometime she wakes up hungry, ( i try not to not give her a bottle when its bed time) or i put her on my tummy and she will go back to sleep. Sometimes i leave her in her crib till she goes back to sleep, i am not sure why she does it tho,

He may just be waking up to make sure you are still there.. or because he was not completly ready for bed yet.

Hope this helps

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