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Shanel - posted on 11/28/2009




Thank you to everyone who has posted I will try these. Her nightmares are not very often but they have occurred more than once in a night before. So thank you.

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Funny I should see your post, I just posted the same question about a week or so ago. My daughter was also going through this and we found that if we make everything as calm as possible as everyone is goin to bed its helped. That and her dad or I would lay down in her bed with her for just a few minutes to help her relax. Lastly, I remember when I was young my mom would let me get a drink of water and it would calm me. Just to try, I allowed her a sippy cup with water (never juice or milk!!) to put on her headboard and she's been good ever since! Been almost a week with no more bad dreams!! Good luck!!

Martha - posted on 11/21/2009




It is not uncommon. You might try a regular bedtime and night time ritual that works for both of you. We used to read a fun book with me in the bed with them, leave on a night light and I would stay in bed with them to fall asleep listening to a tape of the ocean, a brook or some sounds from nature. I would ususally fall asleep with them only to get up later to go to bed with my husband. It was very comforting to me too.

Victoria - posted on 11/21/2009




my daughter had night terrors and our doctor said all children have them at some point between about 10 months old and 4. Some are worse then others.

Sandra - posted on 11/21/2009




Hi Shanel

It is very common for some children to have night mares.

Many things can cause nightmares — for a 2- to 4-year-old, from toilet training to moving to a big-kid bed, changes in childcare or at preschool, or a parent's layoff from work. For a child working through his feelings about these stressful events, nightmares are a normal response, and you're not a bad parent if your child has them.

Your child's nightmares may even stem from listening to a story that's scary (even if it doesn't seem scary to you), watching an upsetting TV show, some TV Commercials can be so bad for children or movie, getting excited or worked up before bed, or feeling anxious or stressed during the day. My oldest get nightmares from things that happened at school that day can upset him and even the stress of moving to a new home can do it.

Let him tell you about the nightmare if he wants to, but don't press it. Console him verbally, but remember that "it's only a dream" might not be much help, as your child is just beginning to understand the difference between reality and fantasy. But it's still something worth saying, since children this age are ready to start learning that nightmares aren't real.

You may also want to show your child there are no monsters under the bed or hiding in the closet. Be nonchalant about it to avoid getting drawn into an all-the-lights-on monster-hunt extravaganza. Double-check that your child's favourite toy or stuffed animal is tucked in with him, make sure the night-light is on, and remind him you're right down the hall, ready to assure that everyone in the house is safe. I have even slept in my sons bed until he fell back to sleep. I hope this helps Sandra

Krista - posted on 11/21/2009




it might be somthing she is seeing on tv that she watches regularly that you think is ok but it really isnt i dont let my daughter watch yo gabba gabba i think its scary but it could be somthing she eats before bed or a regular song or music cd she listens to at night just try to make little changes you'll figure it out

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