NO help and losing my sanity!

Roopa - posted on 06/11/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have 2 kids (Teen and 6 year old) Daughters emotions going overdrive with studies, our conversations are so conflicting, son being hyper - mischievous to no end, a husband staying overseas, he comes home with advices and ideas without any help from his end ... just a lot of advices and my short comings! Help is no were close. Exhausted handling the kids, no proper sleep and its taking a toll. Even if the husband is at home its his time for a break and so tagging along the children when you go out is the only option. I have just let things go loose. Sort of depressed handling everything on my own and had a friend advice about finding out solutions by getting some or any sort of help for a couple of hours or baby sit for kids and vice versa as in take a break and leave the kids with the neighbors. Finding that itself is a stressful job thanks to issues that could crop up later .Creating that sort of friendship is sort of difficult these days thanks to mischievous kids, not letting them move around just so that you do get them or yourself in trouble. A very stressful world! I have absolutely no life or no happiness just constantly on the edge. God, I really need some "me time" before i start losing it.! To add to the mix I have a 1.5 year old niece who stays with me when her parents go to work. How do you all deal with this in a more positive way - Need help with positive parenting.

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Roopa - posted on 06/11/2016

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Thanks Cem Kabul for the advise. I doubt that can be done in Dubai, for all you know i would be answerable for giving them a call on child behavior.
Well How do you actually handle kids. May be it is late but I am not cut out for motherhood, really. Its taking a toll on me.. everything, everyone. Chores at home, picking and dropping kids , grocery shopping, no time for a social life as in can't even make a phone call these days. 3 kids are a hand full and a 24/7 job. Hats off to moms who juggle with work kids family home friends.. everything. I know I need to schedule or priortise. with a 18 month toddler (niece) and 2 small and teenager children i am at different levels now. no word of appreciation off course , or am I thinking soo much, is it all in my head and I just need to calm down. no friends to meet or talk too. Off course inlaws bothering is a different issue I can manage to ignore if she isn't in sight for a few days or a doesnt call for a few days. I DONT remember taking care of myself for a good 6 years now. haven't had a proper relaxing shower for the same amount of years without the child (both the little ones) sitting near the door and asking questions or screaming or crying. When was the time i listened to some fun music LOUD? or do I listen to music anymore. Wondering to start work but then again.. I need to juggle all this and go to work which will drive things in a worser direction.

Help! anyone faced these issues and still came out fine :(

Cem - posted on 06/11/2016

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I, like Jayne, found that both different police departments (one in northern IL and the other in AL) to be friendly, helpful, and wanting (like me) to catch these problems as soon as they happened.
Both times they dispatched an Officer who came over and spoke with my son firmly, explaining what he was doing wrong, why, and how to correct the behavior. And on both occasions they called a week and month later to make sure things were going fine and that their "talks" had assisted me in my time of need.

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