No sex drive!!!!

Mandy - posted on 03/08/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Since my lilttle girl has been born, I haven't had the sex drive that I used to!!! Does any one else have this problem, and how did you fix it???? It's not like we don't have the time, because we do.... and we still do it everyday for his sake, but I just wish that I enjoyed it like I used to. It's like I have so much less feeling down there than I did before the baby - is this possible?? - , and find it difficult to achieve and orgasm, if I even do at all. This was never a problem before!!! My daughter is over 10 months old now, HELP!!!!

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Sabrina - posted on 03/09/2010

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After my son was born I had no problem with my sex drive. I didn't want to take any birth control while I breast feeding. I stopped breast feeding when he was 7 months and that is when I started to take the pill. That was 7 months ago and I have not had any interest in sex since starting the pill. It has been putting a strain on my relationship with my husband. I did explain to him how I feel and that it is harder for me to orgasm now. Even though he is understanding, it isn't the same without the physical side of the relationship. I want to get back to the point where I really enjoy sex again!!! Glad to know I am not the only one having these problems.Good luck to you and hang in there.

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Rachael - posted on 09/17/2012

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Funny, I finally went to the Doctor today to have my hormone levels checked because ever since my first son who's now 3 was born, it hasn't felt good to me. I feel a fraction of the sensitivity and nerve endings at work when we are intimate. My youngest son is almost 2 and I literally have no desire. Even if I see a steamy scene between two hot actors in a movie I cringe and get grossed out. How weird is this? I am a scorpio for cryin out loud and used to want to do it all the time. I do factor in the stress of being a stay at home mom and being constantly yanked and needed by the kiddos, also my husband is always stressed and distant from work, so who knows...

Diane - posted on 03/09/2010

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I felt that way especially after my first "c" section. But you have stretched and it may not feel as nice as it once did. That could happen. My best addvice would be to mention it to your OBG. Doctor. They can see if there is a physical reason or just your hormones needing to snap back to normal. I also felt like that after another child, but it didn't last so long. There could be a physical side or a hormonial side. If hormones, it will go back to normal in time. I am no doctor, nor other people on here if it concerns you; and I believe it does, talk to your doctor, they are the best ones to ask. And yes they have heard it before.

Mandy - posted on 03/09/2010

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i'm taking the same pill I was taking before we started to try and have a baby

Kelly - posted on 03/08/2010

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All I have to say is Amen! I thought I was the only one!!! Are you taking any form of birth control?

Olivia - posted on 03/08/2010

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I feel the exact same way about everything u said! Its like u just dont feel like it, and me and my bf used to Alot and I was always satisfied, but not so much anymore!

Sabrina - posted on 03/08/2010

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i was told my OB/GYN that after ur first baby ur baby is adjusting to the fact that after carrying a baby for 9 months and then suddenly and in most ways very violate the baby is gone. ue body got use to caring and now it doesn't have that job anymore. so in a way ur body is going through a depression and kind of shuts down. ur body remembers how the baby got there and isn't ready to go through it again. so yeah it takes awhile for the sex drive to come back. i was also told it is okay to continue to have sex to keep the man happy... but not to always give into him. ur suppose to help him understand that ur body has basicly been through world war 3 from the inside. and that by caving into to him every night can do more damage than good. yeah the guys is going to get upset, but at the same time if he love you right then he should be willing to go on ur terms for a little while. it's not like it's going to kill him! Good luck and hope that helps some.

Tabby - posted on 03/08/2010

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Same here, and I'm glad you posted this. I was starting to feel alone, like I had a problem. I have no idea how to fix it.. after my son, it took near 8 months to even get my period again.. It's like all the fluids that were normal aren't for a long time. I too had sex for him, but it was very difficult because he expects things for you,a nd i tried telling him that it's not the same, he had a hard time believing me.. What does he know! ugggh. anyway.. Your body is adjusting, and eventually will go back to normal. Mine has finally begun to go back. If you have sex for him, Lube! and with the orgasm, it wasn't happening for me either.. Hope it helps, but your not alone.

Amber - posted on 03/08/2010

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I do not want to give you any negative feedback to discourage anyone in anyway but unfortunately my little one is 20 months old and My sex drive still hasn't came back. My husband thought it was because I was breast feeding but I haven't breast fed since my lil one was 17 months. I agree to talk to your OB/GYN about it. A few other girls I know have had the same problem and they all tell me it eventually comes back. One thing I try not to do unless I am sick or completley exhausted is turn my hubby down when he wants to because otherwise he thinks it has something to do with him and I think it is just my body.
Good Luck!

Christy - posted on 03/08/2010

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Don't worry! This is perfectly normal! Ever woman is different and every pregnancy is different. After my daughter was born I had no sex drive and it took about a year for it to start coming back, but I worked at it. After my son was born I did not have nearly the problem with my sex drive as I did with my first child. Just don't give up. Don't be afraid to talk to your husband. Tell him he needs to help you get in the mood more. Try being more affectionate during the day, that way by night fall you are wanting to get your hands on each other. Buy new sexy night gowns, play some mood music and light candles. And believe it or not, read romantic novels. If none of this works after a couple of weeks, then you can talk to your doctor. Good luck!

Joan - posted on 03/08/2010

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hi

you should go to your ob/gyn talk to them it could be a hormone problem it is a common problem.many of us go thru this.

hang in there

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