Not feeling understood

Brooke - posted on 01/04/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm a SAHM to an amazing 1year old boy. I never thought I'd be a mom, never mind a SAHM. I'm still getting the hang of it, but it truly is an amazing thing to be able to raise this tiny human. Today, my bf said to me...."what do you even do all day?!"....implying that because sometimes housework, laundry, Etc. isn't always my first priority. He Doesnt understand how hard it is to be home with a child all day. I don't get a "lunch break" or "bathroom break" or punch out when I'm done!!! I've tried explaining to him how I feel but I just don't feel like he will ever understand completely. Anyone else go through something like this???

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Tina - posted on 01/07/2016

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My fiance and I struggled with this a lot. On top of his questioning me- I also have borderline personality disorder and PTSD, needless to say it was a knock down drag out fight where I felt attacked daily by him even though he was just asking a question.. Yet he didn't understand that question was making my brain go on overload and I was absolutely losing it- maybe he was right I was being lazy and I wasn't doing anything around the house.. So I slipped into a small depression and decided I was only going to focus on my daughter and that night when he came home he kept telling me how sorry he was because this time he came home to a destroyed house... Dishes... Laundry.. I hadn't swept or picked up her toys all day... I didn't pick up the cereal on the floor we just stepped on it and kept going... I am not telling you to just stop doing the things you actually do all day that go unnoticed because it actually drove me more crazy than him but I would try to maybe sit with him and explain how the question makes you feel and how you are busy all day even if it isn't a punch in punch out job.. Mothering is a 24/7 365....... Positive vibes momma!!

Rabecca - posted on 01/05/2016

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Omg yes my husband tryed to pull that so on his day off i left him woth all the kids and house work wail i went yo my sisters told him everything needs to be done when i got home at 5..btw we had three kids at the time we have four now, when i got home nothing was done and he had a massive apology

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