Not my monkey not my circus..step parents should get paid to care for kids

Stephanie - posted on 07/07/2017 ( 5 moms have responded )

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If your significant other is paying child care cost for children along with child support. You care for those kids while both parents work. Yes! You should be paid. I didn't have these kids..legal I have no obligation to them and my significant other doesn't take care of my 13 year old. Start bawking now folks. We my soon to be husband and I agreed to these terms way before he presented the ring. I would be glad to "help" but I will not be obligated to take care of "kids" when he and the ex are working. It says I quote if there is 3rd party care of the children its in the in trust of the father to be allowed to choose daycare. I'm at home and I care for the kids amazingly. Step parents have the right to be paid for services. I did my job as a divorced single mom of a 23 year old 19 year old and a very independent 13 year old. I adore the kids but it's NNOT MY MONKEY NOT MY CIRCUS. I will marry a father of children but not my children and I want step parents to know its ok not to be a live in babysitter nor free daycare for the ex even if the ex doesn't agree or have her new guy get paid. It's a personal choice and a decision you make with your significant other.

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Michelle - posted on 07/08/2017

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So you were a single Mother of 2 GROWN UP children and a teenager "I did my job as a divorced single mom of a 23 year old 19 year old and a very independent 13 year old."
That's not hard.
I agree that if your step children find out you are being paid to look after them they will rebel against you and you will lose all respect. They will then treat you like the hired help instead of the Mother figure you are.
If that's what you want, don't come complaining to us when it all goes wrong.

Priscilla - posted on 07/08/2017

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I agree with ev Witt. It's one thing if you are a girlfriend or fling, but marriage includes responsibilities not just to each other but also to both your (plural) children.

Once you marry, you inherit rights and responsibilities not just of possessions and properties but as a family. You become a family unit. If you marry the father or mother, you become a step parent.. that's a responsibility you accept when you say "I do".

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2017

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I agree with Dove.
I would never pay my husband to help my out with my children and he wouldn't accept any payment. By marrying me he agreed to help me raise the children.

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