nursing for comfort and to sleep?

Pauline - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My baby is 2 months old and when she wants to sleep and gets fussy she wants to be on the boob. I've tried just holding her (different positions including the airplane hold), I've also used white noise. One time I let her cry it out (as some people have suggested) for 15 minutes and it only made her fussy the rest of the day (not doing that again!) It can take over an hour trying to put her to sleep but if I let her comfort nurse she eases so much better into sleep and it does not take as long. I told her pediatrician this and she told me that I should not be doing that. She told me that it's going to be hard to get her weaned off the boob by the time she's 1 and that her dad should step in to help her sleep because she can smell me and my milk. Well, dad is not a stay-at-home dad (someone has to work!) and he does help tremendously when he's home, but I'm with my baby most of the time. What's your opinion on this? Advice?


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Len - posted on 01/20/2010




I'm a stay at home mother of three kids. I have nursed all three kids of mine to sleep (still nursing my 10 month old daughter). I co-sleep with my kids until there about two. My husband doesn't do much with the kids other than playing, so it came out of NEED for sleep. I read a lot of parenting books and most say let you baby cry it out, never let them fall asleep nursing, so on and so on. As for me I don't have the will power tolerate my babies lay in there cribs and scream for hours, can't do it, I did try a couple of times.I have three very healthy happy kids. I think you have to find what works for you, a happy well rest mother who nurses her baby to sleep will be a better mother than an exhausted mother who spends half the night trying to get her baby to sleep. Also you don't have to wean at one, they do loose interest and start weaning them selfs. Hope that helps.

Alyssa - posted on 01/20/2010




Comfort nurse if you can deal with it. I have an 8 month old that I still nurse to sleep everynight. There's nothing wrong with it. Before he wanted the boob all the time but now he is moving away from it on his own. His nursing sessions are only 3 or 4 a day and maybe 15 mins max. He is also starting to sleep through the night and soothe himself. I could never ever let him cry it out. Many nights be ended up in my bed because he needed me to soothe him, now he can soothe himself most nights. Your baby loves you and wants you there's no reason to deny her of that now. My pediatrician said the same thing to get hubby involved but I don't have that type of hands on hubby. My baby has barely even ever gotten a bottle. Good Luck, do what feels right in your heart. Don't worry about what your Dr. says :)

Wendy - posted on 01/20/2010




I would comfort nurse my other 3. I do not see the problem. The boys were very easy to ween off. My daughter was a little harder but that was more me and not being firm about it than it was her. Don't worry about it. At this point it is not really a concern. As she gets older you will find other things to comfort her and can use those. Enjoy the time you have now because they grow up so fast.

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