One Child or Two?

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I am a Mommy to a 2 year old girl and I am thinking of possibly having another baby. However, I am so exasperated that I can not imagine another one. Will this stage pass? How do all the Mommies with more than one child do it? Are you glad that you have more than one? HELP!

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Nikki - posted on 01/13/2010

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I have a 3yo and a 1yo, when i was pregnant with my second i had alot of doubts about, whether i could ever love another child the way i did my first, whether i could cope, i kept thinking that the baby was going to negativly effect my relationship with my first and that she would feel unloved...then i had my second and the love is instant as it is with your first, it does take some time to adjust but it is not that bad (does have it's moments). I love having 2 and wouldn't change it for the world they are both so special and my relationship is different with both, but both fantastic. If you were to have another one your daughter is at a great age that she will have an understanding of what is going on. I found my daughter adjusted really well, we kept her informed through the whole pregnacy, we talked about the baby and always refered to him as our baby, we talked about how the baby was going to live with us when it comes out mums tummy and that you are going to be a big sister. When he was born we bought her a boy baby born doll and when she came in to meet her brother she got a new baby to and she mimiced alot with her doll. she was always involved by doing little things like holding the nappy ready for his nappy change and singing to him to settle.

Amber - posted on 01/13/2010

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I agree with the other moms, It is your decision, but a very important one. If you feel you are not gonna be able to cope, then just wait till you think you will be able to handle two. I personally only have one son and he is 7 months. As of right now I do not want anymore, but my husband does. I plan to wait until he is at least 2 and maybe then I will be ready for a second. Also this is a mutual decision between you and your husband/fiance/boyfriend. Everything will work out for the best, just give it time, maybe havin two will help you to be more relax about to take care of them, since you are already made it this far with the first! Good Luck!

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This is a decision only you can make. If you really want another child have one because you will cope honestly. When I was pregnant with my second son I was panicking towards the end of my pregnancy how I'd cope but when he was born honest to God I found two no more work than one was. Now I have three sons and no 4 on the way it gets easier not harder the more I have especially now the older two are old enough to get roped into help lol

Jenna - posted on 01/13/2010

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I have soon to be three kids, im due with my third next month. I have a 4 year old daughter and a 2 in half year old son and this one is a boy too. You just make do. everything happens for a reason and everything always works out for the best. I do recommend more than one child only cause i have more than one and its great they play together and have lots of fun. its nice! Its okay though to have just one child that way you can always have that one on one time. I do wish i wouldnt of waited a little more between my first two they are 20 months apart so i kindof wish i would of waited a little longer before having my son so i could have more one on one with my daughter but like i said it always works out for the best and it did they are best buddies now and will always be.

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