Only Wants Mummy

Mel - posted on 01/02/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hey there,
My one year old daughter has just reached the "clingy stag." Yay! Thats all good and normal but has anyone else had it to the point where she is even scared of Daddy?
My husband works A LOT and is only home in the evenings 5 days a week...my daughter will only see him for an hour or so in the evenings (hes gone in the AM by the time she wakes). She is very happy to see him and will go to him on her own accord but as soon as he picks her up she starts to cry and reach out for me.
Poor Daddy is most offended and hurt (yay for male pride).
Anyone else experienced this prob?
Anyone have any ideas to combat it
Many Thanks!

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Mel - posted on 01/04/2010

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Cool thanks everyone! Yesterday when Daddy got home and tried to pick her up the usual crying started... but I quickly left the room and she instantly stopped. Yay! Will definitely start to give the pair of them more alone time as it certainly seems to help!!

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My daughter (almost 9 months) is also in the "clingy stage". She has been in that stage for a while. Most of the time is ma ma ma ma ma....every once and a while its da da but other than that I can't get her to go to daddy.

Ara - posted on 01/04/2010

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My daughter's 17 months and goes in and out of what we call, "men hating" phases too. Everytime we travel to my inlaws house, out of state, she gets like that, where she just wants to be around me and not my husband. She'll scream when he picks her up or goes near her. It's super annoying and frustrating for me. She loves my husband's Mom but won't go near his Dad.
She's also gotten like that around my Dad and brother too, which she sees more often. Again, no problems with Grandma. I think it really hurt their feelings, but now once she gets warmed up to being around them, she has tons of fun.
My sister in law has two kids and said that she probably just acts like that because I'm the one around her all the time and makes her feel the safest, like a security blanket or something. Makes sense.

Amythyst - posted on 01/02/2010

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My daughter is 11 months now but a couple months ago she was acting "scared" of daddy even tho he was home all the time. Lately tho it's the other way and the only time she wants me is for feedings. It's a phase and it will pass...

Ruth - posted on 01/02/2010

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My daughter had it around 9 months, and my husband is home all the time (grad student). What's funny is now that she's 13 months, there are time when she prefers Daddy over Mommy. So long as your husband keeps trying, and talking and playing with your daughter, she'll probably enjoy him once she gets out of the super-clingy stage.

(Although, I do have a sister who was super-clingy from the day she was born until she was 2. So good luck.)

Sheryl - posted on 01/02/2010

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my boys where the same. what seem to really help my boys is for my husbend to put time asaid for just them! doing something they would enjoy! that's how both of my boys seem to form that bond better with there dad. another idea would be maybe having him give her a bath or reading time or just to where they go in another room and play with her toys! hope that helps some!

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