overspending relative on their kid while mine standby and watch or hear about it!!

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Jodi - posted on 05/24/2013

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I am not understanding. is it the parents of this child who are spending this money on him that you have a problem with? If that is the case, your kids just have to learn to suck it up, really. After all, in life, we aren't all equal. There will always be someone out there who has more than your kids do, so chalk it up as a life lesson for them.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/24/2013

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The grandparents make a big deal about your relative (sister, cousin, aunt?) because they make a big deal about their child's successes. Have you considered what you can do for your own kids? You can't just tell people you want something you have to take action... it's odd that you expect other people to just do things for your kids. I understand love must be equal from grandparents to their grandchildren/ nieces/ nephews...but it's ultimately up to the parents to organize these things.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/23/2013

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I don't understand your issue, it's their kid and their money they can do whatever they want. It's your job to think of things you can do yourself with your kids. No one should ever have to feel guilty about what they do for their kids.

If you think what's happening with your relative is wrong, get this: My dad and step mom paid for my younger step sister to have a sweet 16 party (which I never had) and while they are not paying for my wedding, they admitted they would pay for hers when the time comes. I'm my dad's own child and I have to stand by and watch this, but I really don't care, he can do what he wants with his money and his wife's kids.

Michelle - posted on 05/23/2013

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I'm not understanding exactly what you are asking either.
Reading it first off yes it sounds like you are jealous that your relative showers her children with everything they want (and don't even need) and you don't or can't.
To me what they are doing is over the top but each to their own. If they want to bring up spoilt children that expect everything handed to them then that's their choice.

Carol - posted on 05/23/2013

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Have you talked to this relative? What are you expecting her (or him) to do for your children? I've never heard of relatives sending more than MAYBE a card for anything but high school and college graduations for nieces and nephews. The grandparents call and say congrats to my kids. My sisters and brothers just ask what they're planning to do for the summer (none of them give them anything and I've never expected anything).

Maybe the relative assumes that you celebrate your way and they celebrate their way. It does sound way over the top for an 8th grader. If I were you, I'd be glad that my kids weren't that spoiled. They'll learn to appreciate when they do something truly special.

If they're all in the same grade and your kids weren't invited when everyone else was, that'd be rude. If not, I don't think there's anything rude about it except if you show your jealousy. You sound jealous. There's no need to be. If your kids are happy and you're proud of whatever they've accomplished in their schoolyear, just be happy with that.

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