PARENTS!! A 16 years old girl needs ADVICE!

Fiona - posted on 07/25/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I'm 16 years and 6 months old, I live with my single father .My sister moved out of the house three months ago ,she's almost 18 years old.My biological mother left a year after I was born ,my dad remarried two more times but unfortunately it didn't work out with them too.I'm loved by my dad like any other parent loves their children, but I'm also abused both physically and mentally.I'm never let to do anything my own way, always shown and told how to do things.Always yelled, screamed and hit , if done wrong.I never get to choose my own clothes I'm not allowed to wear leggings skinny jeans ,tank tops or shorts.I'm only allowed to wear sweatpants, pants not even my size and regular t-shirts. I think that's absurd, that is not the way I want to present myself! I want to create my own me! I don't want my dad to create my style and personality. I do not want to leave the house , I don't want to hurt my dad or my future. I just want to find the best possible way to make my relationship between me and my dad work. And please understand , life is not easy for me , I talk to no one other than my sister ( and that doesn't happen often) , I try to do my best in school but always get distracted with the drama that happens at home. ( I get hit everytime I do something wrong, I'm scared of my own dad, there are days where I wish of being dead) please help me, I'd love to read every advice ! Thank you!

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Gail Ann Le - posted on 07/30/2017

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I agree that you need help,do you have any other family other then your sister? Of not I think you should start with a plan to leave when you turn 18, some ho w can you put any money away with your sisters help. Money is the key to your freedom. I know of no g od that can get you out.of this situation that's unrealistic to wait arround for that. No this your father is very insecure he thinks that control is the only way he can keep you.Thats why all the women in his life left him. Your sister needs to step up and the two of you work on a plan,if you don't want to turn him in.Best of luck to you i hoped this us a help to you.xoxo

Miranda - posted on 07/28/2017

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Hi Fiona, I am just one other person that cares about you and asking you to help yourself , just like they said, reach out for help. Just a heads up, I had a different situation when I was a teen and didn't feel I could go to someone for help or to even tell, and it's the worse thing I could have done for myself. We are here to support you and we are praying for you. If you can let us know what happens. We know that God has a way for you to get out of the situation. Hugs.

Susan - posted on 07/27/2017

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I'm sorry for what you're enduring. It sounds important to make a change and reaching out to someone you can trust is critical. Reporting such abuse can help end it. You mention you don't talk to anyone but your sister. Can you share with a teacher or have you sister help you? Do you go to church? Please call 1-800-232-6459 as another Mom mentions below. It's free and the help they may be able to provide will be free. Sending prayers for your safety and future.

Sonyahawkins4812 - posted on 07/27/2017

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I am so sorry you are going through this. You are so smart, beautiful and creative. You are amazing 
This too shall pass. It’s only a season. Please reach out to a trusted friend, a teacher, local pastor or counselor for help. This will be confidential. Also, you can contact a licensed counselor for free at 1-800-232-6459 that you can speak to about your personal situation that can also provide a referral in your local area.
Good luck! I wish you all the best.

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