Pinching and hitting 7 month old...

Veronica - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




My daughter has been pinching, hitting and biting me a lot more than usual and pinching harder than usual. I try to practice AP (attachment parenting) and I don't want to make her cry needlessly. I have heard putting her down after she does it works but I tried it a couple of times and it makes her throw a temper tantrum and when I pick her back up it takes me so long to calm her down. What do I do to still keep my attached bond and not alienate her but stop the evil pinching!?


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If you hold her when she always wants held, then what are you going to do when she always wants held, or always wants mommy? What about when she wants something at the store? At some point you have to tell a child no. My daughter was attached to me and would not go to sleep without me rocking her almost every night, I let her learn to put herself to sleep and even though it was hard for me as her mother to hear her cry, she learnt to go to sleep by herself and even play by herself. She is just fine and it helps when I have things I need to do.

Jordan - posted on 01/22/2010




HAHAA! I used the same technique I used to teach my dog not to bite. Whenever my daughter would do one of the above, I would say "OW!", then take her hand a lovingly put it to my face and say "Be NICE to Mommy" in a soft voice. Then I would give her a hug and kiss... I know, I know. I am a sap, but she stopped after a week so it worked. lol

Kyle - posted on 01/21/2010




my son started this also around the same age. I did the putting him down and telling him no hitting but as soon as i put him don't he just crawled away and didn't seem to care. I did start catching his hand when he would try to hit me and telling him a firm "NO HITTING" and that seemed to work although he does get in a good wack or hair pull every once in a while!! one other thing is you really can't be afraid to let her cry when she does something wrong, otherwise as she gets older she will realize it and just walk all over you. I could just about get anything i wanted from my dad when i was young. That's how we ended up with three dogs and a cat!! Now my daughter has taken my advantage from me. I guess i'm not as cute anymore when i am 26!

Justine - posted on 01/21/2010




my son bits and pinches too, and throws a temper when i yell or get angry, so i turn the "ow" into a playful ow, and say don't do that to mommy, it hurts, and then i usually direct his attention away from me to something else, like water, or a snack, or a pasi if she likes them. just anything, get down to her level and talk calmly and loving, that's what works best for me.

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