please help advice on messy house

Danielle - posted on 05/22/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Someone help I really need some advice... iima stay at home mom married with 2 boys ages 5 and 11m and 4 weeks pregnant with my 3rd... my house isnt omg horrible but it its clean clean yes I have clothes on the floor up stairs an in the bathroom up stairs but I try hard to keep the down stairs (what ppl see) clean but its still toys on the floor an the kitchen some times can be a mess!!.. bout when my husband's mom or sister (which is like 19) come over they always have something to say! An it ticks me off!! Im trying I know I could try harder but im popped from these boys they run me left n right all day I always cook for them and my husband ALWAYS but the house is the hardest to keep clean im so sick of ppl talking stuff its making me mad...what should I do? Am I wrong for feeling this way? Are the things they are saying right should I try harder

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Tanya - posted on 05/22/2014

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Don't worry!

How can a house be spotless with 2 small children and being pregnant?! Impossible!

Someone once told me the best saying. I always stick by it. ''If I knew what I know now...I would tell myself...''the cleaning will get done''

That means enjoy the children and don't miss a moment with them.

My house is clean but not spotless...

Ashley - posted on 05/22/2014

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I have only one child but recently found out im 2 weeks pregnant (yesterday)
Its definitely hard even with just one
i am very unorganized, papers, projects and junk overruns me and my small home
but as long as you have stepping room you'll be okay and mostly worry about keeping the kitchen clean so you don't develop yucky bugs maggots (not saying thats what will happen) but keep the kitchen and bathroom the cleanest and definitely carpets (if you have carpet) the cleanest vacuum at the between every other day- 2 times a week or even once a week
and as for the in laws and stuff basically have a f* it attitude toward their rude comments when you are clearly doing your best to keep it at least presentable, livable!
also maybe even say something along the lines of "well i don't want my house to look like its for sale! its looks lived in and used, i have a family and thats what a family with children in the house have and what the children do"
also your 5 year old make sure he knows to keep his toys cleaned up when he is done it is never too early to start giving them responsibility (i was never taught to have much responsibility which makes it harder in growing to be an adult, i have the maturity but it is difficult for me to organize and clean cause i was never forced to or given chores) give them 50 cents just for doing chores everyday! if your 5 year old is anything like most children they would be happy even with just 25 cents but to make them feel more special id say 50 cents
and teach your youngest with lots of patience because they will not grasp the concept right away to do the same and also tell the youngest look what your brother is doing he's being mommy's little helper and putting toys away he's putting them back where they belong and always praise them when they do what you ask
always just show them love in what they do right and concern when they are not doing right and these toys go together set them up so they look nice always show them how they are supposed to look if they get it wrong kids love to learn more than you think they do i hope this practically article really helps you out! i know how hard it can be and it can really be overwhelming and plus being pregnant again encourage your partner to help you as much as possible so you are not too stressed with the amount of duties you have on your plate and that you will need more help than usual cause you want to have a healthy pregnancy and stress can really harm the baby (not saying that you may not or he may not know any of this but it is a good reminder, to remind him about pregnancy)

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Chaterhine - posted on 05/24/2014

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Hi. you should have one room for them to play, like you know all the toys are there. then you should have something to monitor them like the "walky talky".then once you saw them starting playing you start cleaning as well, always check the time, because you will forget to feed them in the right time.once their full they will just play.in cleaning, you should start with all the easy things like take all the dirty clothes and put them in the machine.clean all the rooms, and normally i closed the room once i cleaned it so that the children will not running inside and try to mess it again.floors can be last thing to do.start cooking and clean the kitchen at the same time.then don't take them for a bath very early , they should eat first and played for a long time.so that once you take them to a bath they will feel sleepy.then you can take them for a nap.once they sleep you can finish all the pending chores in the house.so that later on if your husband come from work at least the house doesn't look so messy and you don't feel so exhausted.

Ashley - posted on 05/24/2014

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www.kcsl.org/HealthyFamilies.aspx
i highly recommend this program but i am in a different state and i have no idea if they run things differently but a great program to be in nonetheless and if you want more resources they always point you in that direction and even if you do not wish to go with this program in particular and want to check out a different one they are more than likely to point you to many others
sorry it took so long for me to write back

Ashley - posted on 05/22/2014

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its definitely hard to not care but sometimes you just have to for not worrying for what is best off for you
i dont know what state you live in but you might want to consider a developmental home visitor volunteer just for reassurance and everything if you don not have one already there are tons of resources
ive had a couple of them on and off since my son was born
the first one i had her name was Danielle, she was beautiful young and inspiring to keep being better even through post partum depression ahe helped me shine through it and i was really upset that i had such a short time with her and was scared to tell my insecurities to another visitor so took me months to call her and come through with an appointment with her and that one, her name was Tara
i had Tara for 2 or three years after that then she eventually moved out of state to be closer to family
her and i are still friends and still keep in touch she has been the most amazing person ever to me and i love her so much, you really grow a relationship with them
My NEW home visitor, Kamee, i've only seen her twice so far but as far as right now i already love her and depending on who the company is and who they are sponsored by they can bring you free things that will really help you out financially
I love these programs they are such a big help most of them are 0-5 or pregnancy-3,4, or 5

Danielle - posted on 05/22/2014

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Its really hard 2 not care what ppl think but reading u ladies comments really help me to say f it thank you!

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