please help me to get it right

Sian - posted on 10/14/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




my 11 month old will not fall asleep alone, i still have to rock and bonce her off, she does not sleep through the night st worst she will wake 5 times demanding breast, i bottle feed during the day. i KNOW it must be something im doing as my 1st child didnt sleep through the night until almost 18months!! i didnt breast feed my 1st though. please help me, she doesnt have a soother and im reaaly tired and very frustrated!


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i dont think any of you will like my suggestion lol.. with both my boys, 2 and 1 now.. i let them cry at 3-4 mos.. took a few nights, my husband didnt let me go up to them, i was mad then lol.. but now they both sleep in the same room from 7 pm to 7 am... every once in a while they wake up but sometimes i leave them alone unless they're sick, comfort them a lil not long, and put them back down.. they are great sleepers now and so am i lol

Alison - posted on 10/14/2009




My second son did this and he was bottle fed. In the end I ended up giving him my pillow to sleep with, it was soft he could cuddle with it and it smelled like me! It still took a few nights of me sitting in his room with him while he fell asleep, but after a week of so he could do it on his own. What ever you choose to do just remember it's going to take time for her to get use to.

Sian - posted on 10/14/2009




she just wails and stands in her cot if i leave her, but i will start to give bottle at night i really didnt want to but this has to stop! thank you both for the advice

Eleanor - posted on 10/14/2009




Maybe you should try bottle feed her at night and let her sleep on her tummy once she is asleep. Leave the room quietly so she won't know she is alone. Sometimes kids sense they are alone when they can't smell us. Try putting your blouse that you wore earlier (not wash yet) near her bed. I did that to my kids when they were much younger and it works. Hope it workes for you too.

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2009




Have you tried putting her into bed and just going back and checking on her every few minutes? That's how I started with my daughter. She will be 3 on Halloween, and sometimes she still likes to be rocked. She does take a sippy of water to bed with her, and still has her blankie and pacifier....but she's also been a great sleeper for me since about 3 months old, sleeping all night long. My 13 year old on the other hand, was still getting up every two hours until he was well over 3 years old. I wish you all the best, sleepless nights are the worst!!

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