Please help me with my 8 year old and her attitude!

Julie - posted on 05/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




She used to be so sweet and fun to be around. Now she is mostly just angry and yelling and refuses to do anything. She is throwing temper tantrums like a 3-year old. It is out of the blue and I really have no plan of action for this. She only really loves to read and I would be a fool to take that away from her (lol), so there is little I can do as a punishment. I tried having a talk with her - asked her what was bothering her, but got nothing. Sometimes she is sweet and others just impossible. And loud! She is turning 9 in 3 weeks and I'm hoping it will all end as quickly as it came. Any tips??


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Gilberte - posted on 05/11/2009




I found that the silent treatment works sometimes. After that I bought a spiral note book for each of my kids and wrote then a couple of pages about how I felt about things in my daily routine and and how they hurt my feelings when they did certain things and put them on their beds to reply at their own pace and return to me when they were ready.
It was a way for me to have my say without interruption or talk back or smart remarks.
You don't loose you train of thought and can rewrite reword anything that doesn't sound right. Can't do that verbally. NO REWIND BUTTONS IN LIFE!

Krista - posted on 05/11/2009




I am right in the middle of that with my 8 yr old son. He's talking back, whining, arguing, and yes, the tantrums- much like the ones his 4 yr old brother throws. I just tell him I can't hear him unless he uses a big boy voice. I also have developed a spray. Way back when, washing kids mouths out with soap didn't work, so I took an idea from a friend, and made a spray of brown Listerine. Just one spray in their mouths, and it tastes awful, and after all I hear is "yes mom". Works like a charm. For both our sakes, I hope it ends soon for our sanity if nothing else.

good luck

Sandy - posted on 05/09/2009





I have a behaviourally challenged child (I realize your daughter isn't this way) & the best advice I ever received was through a profesional who stated I should only reward "good" behavior:)

Meaning no reaction for any other behaviour then what is good. When she acts out ignore her literally to the point you don't even realize she is in the same room as you!! It works, with normally fuctioning children as well.

Hope it helps;)

Rachael - posted on 05/09/2009




When I was teaching I can remember sweet little kindergardeners that came back after summer for 1st grade and they had become drama queens. They became very chatty, extremely sensitive and got in fights with other girls a hundred times a day. After a while and some serious talks about proper behavior and how to treat people with respect they started behaving a little better. I think it may be a stage but I really can't say for sure. Good luck, the teen years seem to start sooner and sooner...

Julie - posted on 05/09/2009




Thanks for the suggestion. I am pretty keen to that as I have hypoglycemia, so I doubt that is the problem. I am hoping it is a stage, since I recall my oldest going through this too, but I'm just looking for a better way to handle it. Thanks!

Karen - posted on 05/09/2009




My girls are only 6 and 3; however is there a possibility that it could be a result of fluctuations in her blood sugar levels? Recently I have also heard people refer to the same behaviour with their kids who have been tested for high mercury levels. Good Luck!

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