please I need answers , I am very concerned!

Lamiae - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 71 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 9 months old. the problem that I am currently having with her is that she refuses to change her diaper in any of those changing stations found in the public bathrooms. Once she sees me pulling down the station she starts crying really loud and really bad to the point other people start asking what is wrong with her. I don't know what to do with her and I am wondering if any of you had the same problem with their babies and what did you do? Thanks!

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Samantha - posted on 05/07/2010

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yes i had the same thing happen, what i did was take nice treats and snacks and popular toys to take the attention away from bottom change time, worked, i also put a baby blanket under him because some of those tables are cold.he soon saw it as a fun thing instead of a must do thing!

Jeaustine - posted on 05/04/2010

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I had the same problem with my first son (he's now 6). I used to take him into the restroom and then change him in his stroller. A bit of a hassle but I didn't have to worry about him screaming loud enough to wake the dead. Finally determined when he started talking that he was afraid of it. To a young child it's not supported by anything...kinda scary...who knew they had that much insight at less than 1yr.

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I think she's normal. Try using dressing rooms if you're at a store/mall. I also would suggest having a large plastic changing pad and just doing it on the floor somewhere. (If you're yucking at that thinking dirty, do you really, truly think that changing pad is cleaner than a floor?! Honestly, I see them mop the floors. I have yet to see them ever clean that changing station.)

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CarrieAnn - posted on 05/07/2010

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Hi Lamiae! Both my babies are the SAME way!! Never have fallen or anything..but it freaks them out. I think alot because the lack of similarity and padding. My oldest, Emma 27m comes undone! It is embarrassing. I lean forward and hug on her while she is there for a moment so she feels safe. Then I try to distract and rush! LOL! My youngest, Jake 14m is not as dramatic..but neither like them. The hollow sound of a bathroom and loud noises..I think it's a surrounding thing..besides..I don't think I'd want to lay on that hard plastic either...so I just rush and lean in and hug during. It's quite comical to watch!

Hang in there..encourage potty training..I am on both! LOL!

Big Hugs!
Carrie Ann

Chelle - posted on 05/07/2010

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Those things are cold and hard and uncomfortable. You can buy disposable changing mats that you could lay down anywhere to change her or perhaps if you had a padded blanket or towel to carry around, she would consider lying on one of them.

Karen - posted on 05/06/2010

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put a changing pad from home over the cold plastis and maybe she'll calm down or change her in the stroller with the seat layed down.

Laura - posted on 05/06/2010

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Both my kids were TERRIFIED of those... even my afraid of nothing little daredevil girl.

Kim - posted on 05/06/2010

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Motherhood is partly (a big part) being creative. Learn what you child needs and find a way to accomodate that need.

After my son, I can change a diaper on my lap, in the car (not while driving of course), and while they are standing up. As long as it isn't too mess, the standing up was my favorite too. Much less fuss and bother.

Point is, if she is afraid or being that upset by changing a diaper, find a different way.

If it is the bathroom sounds that scare her, the best thing is to keep her out of as many as possible. The fear of the table could transfer to the room and then potty training and beyond will be a nightmare.
Good luck in finding what works for her.

BriAnna - posted on 05/06/2010

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she might not like being naked in strange places my son was like that so i took him out to the van and changed him and he was fine with that.

Julie - posted on 05/06/2010

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My daughter (19 mo) hates them too. she wont lay down but will sit. I think cause its a cold hard, not to sturdy surface, she feels like she might fall. its the same principle of the holding baby close to body or the skin to skin thing. shes basic in her feelings. mommy isnt holding her and she feels unsafe.

Dianne - posted on 05/06/2010

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what about carring one of those portable changing pads and lay in on the floor in one of the stalls?
or maybe even change her in her stroller....she is probably scared of the noise and echoes....my kids always were....

Victoria - posted on 05/06/2010

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Lamiae, I don't have the same problem but I have never tried to use them because I don't like them, lol...If it isn't to much trouble try changing her in your car in the back seat..That is what I do before I go into public places...I know it might sound crazy but my son is almost 9 months too and I haven't ever even thought of using the changing stations for some reason..I know that they are convienent and all that but if she doesn't like it I would try doing it in the car before hand...I hope that helps a little...Good Luck...

Kim - posted on 05/05/2010

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it may be the hard plastic of the station it's self try taking something padded, or just foldiing a blanket under her so she is not laying against the hard plstic of the station! Hope this helps1

Amanda - posted on 05/05/2010

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hello, my son is 2 months old and today when i out him on one of those chaning table he got upset...now he has nothing to associate it with, but those tables are not soft and they are very open so I believe the comfort of not falling is taken away...once he starts to move his arms the table starts to move too which could be quite scary...My daughter is 4 years old and she has always been sincde the age of one afraid the potties that flush automatically they are loud so everytime we go in she covers her ears and asks me to help her before the flusher flushes her lol shes getting better though about it. I suggest when you go into a bathroom with one bmring a stuffed animal she likes, put it on the table first pretend to change its diaper and she if she wants to try now that her friend has. it worked for my daughter when she was little. sometimes I asked her if she wanted to pull it down for me ( with help of course) hope it helps and good luck

Catherine - posted on 05/05/2010

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Sounds like she's afraid she's gonna fall off....I mean, there's really not a lot of room on those things, I can understand her worries ;). I would invest in a foldable/portable changing pad and just change her on the floor.....sanitize it like mad on the bottom afterward ;).

Heather - posted on 05/05/2010

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Lisa - My daughter hates plastic bag sounds too!

I try to avoid those changing stations. I realize that not everyone's car is set up for this, but I keep supplies in the back of our Explorer. I lay down a small cushiony blanket pad, a disposable pad, and change her in the back of the car before we go into a store or restaurant, if she needs it. (I'm standing outside.) I keep a toy back there too to keep her distracted during the process.

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my kids were never really afraid of the changing stations, but as an add on to the suggestion above about using the cart. i think this is a very good idea if you can figure out how to do it-might be easier with a stroller, however i almost never bring my stroller into a grocery store. I almost ALWAYS bring the cart into the bathroom with me though. lol. i have 2 kids, so there is no way i'd be able to grab everything out of the cart just to go potty, or to assit my daughter in going potty--that alone is a 2 hand job. i usually bring it to the handicap stall and i can do my business in peace. it would be cool if they developed a tray that stretched across the cart though.. kinda like the changing stations in recent play pens...

Jeniffer - posted on 05/05/2010

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sure did change her anyway she has to learn that you make the rules and you don't want her with a rash as for other people they can mind their own business kids cry she will get used to it and the scenes will stop

Crystal - posted on 05/05/2010

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my son does the same thing so i started using my stroller i have 2 boys and always have my stroler i take them into the bathroom in the handicap stall and put the back down in the recline position and cham him there if i dont have if i sit on the toilet and chnge him on my lap he just dosent like people watching him

Norene - posted on 05/05/2010

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I had that problem. I would either take him out to the car to change him, or use the dressing room if the store had one. I often used the dressing rooms for nursing as I had 2 little ones 15 months apart. Most times they are understanding, unless they are really busy. Good luck.

Regina - posted on 05/05/2010

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My son starts getting upset before we even walk in. He hates the sound the toilet makes when its flushed. It terrifies him. He doesn't mind the changing table though. If my son throws too big of a fit, I just change him in the car.

Carolyn - posted on 05/05/2010

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My oldest was TERRIFIED of diaper changing stations. If I needed to use them I found a blanket better than a change mat, a couple of his toys and I needed to sing and be super silly. And FAST. Sometimes you have to use them and just need to pull out every stop in the book. I used to creep out of the bathroom when I was done thinking everyone probably thought I was beating my baby. It never got better, I just got faster.

Laura - posted on 05/05/2010

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My son is the same way. He hates those things. He doesn't like lying down in foreign places or something. If I have my stroller, sometimes I'll just lie it back and change him in there. Or if I have to I'll just let him scream through it. I found it helped too by putting a blanket down first to make it not so hard and uncomfortable :)

Jess - posted on 05/05/2010

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It is common for children to be fearful at this stage. You could try sitting her on the changing table everytime you go in the bathroom even if you are not changing her. Istead of lying her down just sit her on it and say see you are all right. Maybe you could play a quick game of patty cake to distract her as well. After a while she will get used to it. My son was like this if I changed him in the back of our Jeep. I think it was his perspective...he thought he was going to fall. Also stay close to her and let her hold onto you while you change her. I also sing my son's favorite songs to help calm him down. I hope that helps!

Laura - posted on 05/04/2010

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Those change tables are very hard. I found that with my first if i layed a thick towel or baby blanket over her change mat she was ok.

Bridgette - posted on 05/04/2010

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My son hated them too i just used the Pad from my bag on the floor. the visual he got from there scared him silly. (i used the handicapped one :)

Kristin - posted on 05/04/2010

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Ask if you can use a dressing room, use a stroller, use your car, find a family restroom, or a breastfeeding room, a nicer ladies room may have a sofa or something too, try to use a changing table in a stall as opposed to the ones just in view of everyone. Bring a favorite blanket to lay down on a changing station surface if that's all you've got available. Maybe something comforting from home will help. Also, do it as quickly as you can. Just be persistant and eventually, she will either get over it or be potty trained.

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My daughter never cared where i changed her, but my son on the other hand hated those public stations!! Instead, I changed him in the back seat of our car. I live in Washington state, it's way too cold to use the stroller although it is a great idea! There were a few times I couldn't get to my car, so i found a secluded area (so i wouldn't offend others) and laid a changing cloth on the floor and changed him. Those situations were typically parks.

Trina - posted on 05/04/2010

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I like the posts about using the stroller. I had one that laid completely flat and I changed many diapers in it. I just put my changing pad down so I didn't get the stroller gross. If you don't have the stroller with you maybe you could try distraction. Give her something to play with and keep your body turned away from it while you are pulling it down so she doesn't notice. Then lay her blanket on it so she doesn't see it. Good luck.

Julie - posted on 05/04/2010

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If you are lucky enough to be in a mall that has carts...maybe try changing the baby in a shopping cart...it looks weird but it might get the job done. Another thing that could be the problem too, is the bright lights...my daugther's eyes are super sensitive to light and when she was laying down on those change table the light glared down on her and she could handle it...hope this info. helps.

Alisha - posted on 05/04/2010

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My son developed some kind of fear of public bathrooms when he was about 7 months old. I have no idea where it came from! I think it might be the noises? Or maybe an association with the doctor's office like someone pointed out in a previous comment? Regardless, when I change my son in a public bathroom, I also have people stare and ask if there's something wrong. I've even had a lady walk up to me and ask if she could try holding him. I just always reply, "He's fine. He just doesn't like the noises in the bathroom." I've tried talking him through it. I've tried placing a mat on the table, floor, sink-area, etc. I've just come to terms with it. He hates it, but he'll hate a diaper rash more!

Julie - posted on 05/04/2010

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Try giving her a toy or something that will keep her mind off the change table...I also, had an experience where there was no change area so I just laid my coat then a blanket on the floor and changed them there...maybe try that.

Shanna Lee - posted on 05/04/2010

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My son had a problem in bathrooms where they have the automatic flushers. Scared the geez out of him so he wouldnt use those either if he heard one. Not sure why it was so tramatic but there must be a reason behind your little ones fear. Height, plastic, cold?

Jane - posted on 05/04/2010

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try giving her a little toy before you go in the bathroom and see if she is distracted. she'll grow out of it. those things are a little scarey to them, they like to be solid at that age.

Jasmine - posted on 05/03/2010

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i just lay her blanket on the counter in the bathroom and do it there...lol

Donna - posted on 05/03/2010

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My 2 year old has always been terrified of them as well. She's so terrified that I will not change her on these changing units. I carry a very large & thick terri/cotton changing pad when I'm out. If I'm close to my car, I may also use the back of my car to change her.
Anyway, good luck. In my experience this fear hasn't gone away. Those stations are pretty gross anyway, so may it's for the best LOL.

Sandra - posted on 05/03/2010

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Hello Lamiae,

I think your daughter is having a trauma, first u have to start over when she is acting like that because when we have the root of the problem we can easier to solve it!.

Secondly, try to change the diaper not in the changing station but may be you can bring ur own changing mat....

hope this helped ur problem ....

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i agree with the first two posts. my son only has that problem at the doctors office. because, when he see's the doctor he thinks that he is getting shots right away.

Laura - posted on 05/03/2010

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my baby is 10 months old and he still does this he never associated well with change.Some babies have problems with things being different.

Shannon - posted on 05/03/2010

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My children have all been terrified of the changing stations, too (and the self-flushing toilets! LOL). My oldest daughter absolutely could not handle being changed on the station tables, so we reclined the stroller to change our kids in the restrooms. Not as practical but people don't think you are killing your child, either! And none of my kids ever had any bad experiences with the changing stations, either, they just hated them. You get really fast at stroller changes after you do a few. Hang in there!

Amber - posted on 05/03/2010

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My !8 month old still does it and has been doing it since about 8-9 months. He never fell off one or anything and i have yet to fuigure out why he does it.

Melinda - posted on 05/03/2010

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My son freaked out on them, but he also doesn't like to be thrown up in the air ect. I firmly believe it's a control issue, he feels how it is not solid and it freaks him out. You have a few options, keep using and letting her freak out (tell others she is fine & politely tell them to mind their own business), you can get a changing pad (longer the better) pack some clorox wipes use the changing pad on the ground in the handicap stall (I use the clorox wipes to wipe the back of the changing pad before putting it away) . . . once she is able to stand up well you can change her in an upright position, this is what we do now it takes a bit of getting used to but the last two choices there isn't any screaming, hope that helps!

Susan - posted on 05/03/2010

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im going through the same only my son will be 2 in june. he started around 8 months old . the only thing that i can think happened is the toilet in the restroom had auto flush and it scared him. also he didn't like the dryer you dry your hands in.i usually have to walk out to the van and change him because it sounds like some one is killing him lol, not very convenient .

Halley - posted on 05/02/2010

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Hi, my son just turned 2 and he is still terrified of those stations! I wish I had some wish words of advise but honestly I have had the same problem with him, I just try to make him laugh while changing him, to occupy him and get his mind off of being in a strange place. I really hope everything works out for ya. Good Luck

Jennifer - posted on 05/02/2010

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I have this problem with my son also. He has never fallen off of anything, but, what I have noticed is how "flimsy" those things feel just to my hand. For my son, I actually bring a changing pad with me, and a blanket, just for diaper changes, and I literally change him on the floor. He absolutely WILL NOT get into one of them, he tries to roll out of it. So, if you are not able to stabilize the table while changing her, you may need to resort to my tactics and just change her on the floor. But, like I said, designate a blanket to go in with the changing pad, it covers more area and makes it more comfortable for baby! Good Luck!!

Nicole - posted on 05/02/2010

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My 3rd child does not like them either. I think she thinks she will fall. She hangs on to the sides and screams and never does this anywhere else. I just change her in her carriage or bring a mat/diaper changing mat with me and change her on the floor. I do not think it's worth it to traumatize them for a diaper change. good luck.

Holly - posted on 05/02/2010

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I wish it was changing stations. My boys don't care if they got poop on them. I have to change them on the floor because they fight so much.

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Babies are so clever and sometimes they do get upset over things for there own reasons my 16 mth old is terrifed of the potty and one day she was trying to get up on the toilet so i put her sitting on it and i swear she started shaking she was so afraid.Why i dont know but baby's do take to some things very strange and to your little one that changing station is not looking good to her lol.Try her buggy or if your car is near the shopping area etc do it there.Giving her a toy or snack to hold is a great idea to take her mind of it:-)

Lori - posted on 05/02/2010

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sometimes the cold of them or the hardness of them bother babies. my oldest son didn't like them have tried laying a blanket or changing pad on them before putting her up there?

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Lamiae,

I'm sure you have tried this, but here it is anyway. Have you given her a toy, plush or something to draw her attention away from the task at hand? My son was absolutely terrifie of the floating table. He was so sure it was going to fall into the deep end of the ocean. I started with a pacifier when he was really young, then graduated to keys, then to his teddy and now it just takes an animal cracker.
And it helped to have his pooh changing mat with us. He would always tense up because it was too cold on his little behind.
Give it a shot, you never know.

Tasneem - posted on 05/02/2010

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yes i did but for a very short time..but i used to change it in the pram itself rather st the changing station...n she wud happily do it...try.

Lamiae - posted on 05/02/2010

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thanks ladies for your help and suggestions. I hope that something will work for us.

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