Please tell me im not just the care taker,maid,and baby sitter. Im losing it!

Christina - posted on 03/26/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




Me, my husband and our 2 daughters, ages 3 years an 4 months live with my in-laws due to being forclosed on at the end of last year. I now stay at home with my two kids and my disable father in-law.
With my husband working up to 14 hour shifts it is putting so much stress to do all that a perfect house wife should do. I am in a house two times the size that i am use to cleaning an i have now 3 extra people that i am cleaning for. not to mention taking care of my in-law. I am not a big drinker at all but i have been finding myself wanting to have a drink or 2 every night just to take the edge off. I feel like from the time i get up to the time i sleep i am just repeating the same things over an over an never getting anywhere.. . . . . . The kids, my in-law, the dishes, landry, toys, all of it. i feel like i can never get ahead. Im sure this post is like most other posts, complaining about how hard being a house wife is. but i think i have just hit my brick wall and im ready to fall over. How do u mothers seem to do it without losing your selfs in the prosses? cuz this mom is ready to check out.


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Sonja - posted on 03/26/2010




sounds like you have a lot on your plate as well as your husband. i find myself feeling the same way. and the only time i can get some time to myself is when everyone is sleeping....i started goin walking...that has helped take a lot off my mind at times...yes i still have my kids with me but it gets them out as well...i let my 4 year old walk and i push my 2 year old in the stroller that way the older one can wear down too. i give you props for living with family! that is something i could never do.. i hate to have soemone telling me what to do and when to do it. but it isnt by choice for you! dont turn to the bottle. its not good on you or your family. yes a drink is not bad for anyone,..just dotn get carried away. Do you like to play cards or games? that is another thing i do.. i started playing dice with some friends once a month and that has really helped. take some time for yourself and breath our job isnt easy! i dont care what anyone tells us. and you are taking care of more than most do! you are doin great!

Kay - posted on 03/26/2010




Wow, I really feel bad for you. Sounds like U've been through allot in a short time. I am also a stay at home Mom but only to one child a 17 month old son and his many pets. I felt like you, only one day it got so bad that I was driving and thought that if I just go a little faster and jerk at the wheel I might flip the car and it will all be over. Dont let it get that far. I went to see a lovely Dr (dont know where U are from if you are from SA in the PE area email me and I'll give you his details, and he gave me a little pill to take and now I can breathe again. You just need to catch U'r breath. Good friends in a similar situation are a really great help too. Hope you are OK.

Lisa - posted on 03/26/2010




Christina, find a moms group in your area, MOPS is a great one if you can. If not don't drink, it don't help nothing, I ensure that! Breath count to 10 and talk to your husband and tell him the truth the whole truth!! Be strong for you daughter they are watching and feed off you. Maybe you can get your in-laws to watch the girl if not for nothing else then a long hot shower! make the little things in your life count!! and this might sound weird but have sex alot it makes and also releases hormones that will relax you and help you though, even if you don't feel in the mood just do it it better then any wine to take the edge off.

Pamela - posted on 03/26/2010




Make time for yourself, everyone mother needs a break and have some me time.

Rosemary - posted on 03/26/2010




First stay in touch with friends that you trust, talk w/ the hubby, take that drink at the end of the day, a nice glass of red wine won't hurt. Take a nap when ever possible ( the housework sometimes can wait for another day, the other things are more important. Have your oldest child play a friendly game of "clean-up the toys"

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