Pooping in the toilet troubles, HELP

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 3 and a half year old son has absolutely no trouble peeing in the toilet, hes been potty trained in that sense for months now but he refuses to poop in the toilet, he will stand in front of it and poop right on the floor, i even tried putting a diaper on him for pooping but he wont even do that anymore, im at my ropes end with it, and i dunno what to do anymore, PLEASE HELP ME!!

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Catherine - posted on 01/22/2010

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There's always the tried and true 'egg sitting' method. Pick up the poop with some TP and son watching, saying, "Poops don't go there! Poops go *plop*--"[drop poop in toilet]"--in the toilet." And sit son, pants down, on the toilet for a little while.

Works *great* in combination with bribery and corruption [aka lollies/stamps/stickers for progressive goals... a little poop in the toilet, more, all of it... going properly all day/week etc.]

Never get agitated with accidents [even though you want to strangle them] Just act sad like it's such a shame and repeat the process. If necessary, turn off the electric babysitter [tv/video games/etc] until stuff starts going right. Too many distractions in the home can lead to more potty accidents.

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2010

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ive tried it myself but i never got darron to attempt it, bradley already wants to be like daddy from wearing his nametag around to even lately sleeping like him lol, everything is daddy so its worth a shot :)

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Honestly...what worked for our son was his father. Every evening when my husband came home from work he would take our son to the bathroom with him and would do the deed with Drydien right there in front of him. Seeing daddy do it made Drydien want to be just like daddy. I know not all fathers will be willing to do this, but if you have a willing father maybe that's worth a try. If dad isn't willing, try doing it yourself...although I know, if your a stay at home mother, washroom time is one of the few moments we have to ourselves during the day :p

Laura - posted on 01/21/2010

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My younger son took a long time to figure out. I was very frustrated but I took a deep breath and just let it be. He had to learn his own body. I stuck with lots of praise. We had a big party and he got a game he wated for a long time when he finally did it. But, for him, once he started pooping in the potty, there ws nver another accident.

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2010

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he knows poop goes in there, youll see him come and tell me and then watch me clean it up and put it in the toilet, plus while i was potty training with the pee to he used to have a poop take the diaper off and go to the toilet to dump the poop out

Lindsay - posted on 01/21/2010

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My three year old just barely potty trained in the last few weeks. He would not poop on the toilet either, he held it for 3 days when we started training him. We sat him on the toilet for about 20 minutes every hour for about 2 days until he finally pooped. We would sit in there with him and let him watch a movie on the ipod so it wasn't like he was being punished. Another mother of 3 boys told me to sit my son on the toilet every hour until he went potty and made the connection of pooping in the toilet. It took a while but it worked and we had a huge party and reward when he finally did it. Good luck. :)

Joy - posted on 01/21/2010

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I've had four kids, and I have to say my girls seemed much easier to train than the boys, however, that being said, I got so tired of people telling me my kids were "old" to be still having accidents, or "behind" others their ages.
I had my boys go in to the potty with daddy whenever daddy had to go, so they could get an idea of what was going on, and when I became a single mom and they were still under 4 I did the same with me. I mean you know they weren't staring or anything, they just understood that mom or dad felt a need to go, and would go sit on the potty. We got them the little potty video and then we just didn't put any pressure on them. I'd ask them 30-45 minutes after they ate to come with me to the potty and sit them on it for at least 5 minutes. Many times they got the urge, but we had a lot of accidents on the way, because they didn't know until right when it was about to happen. And then when the day came they actually pooped in their potties?! We had a party! I mean jumping up and down and clapping, and "what a big boy you are now!" kind of thing. I only ever gave positive reinforcement, never negative. I didn't want to give them a complex. It's not a fight, you know? It's a natural act that they have to learn to do in the appropriate way of our society, at the appropriate time, and eventually it all works out just fine! So relax! He will get it! Just model and support and encourage. Blessings, Joy

Jennifer - posted on 01/21/2010

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I sorry to say I don't have the miracle anwser. My 3 year old did the same thing. I tried everything. 6 months after he got the peeing in the toilet down he one decided on his own the it was time to poop. It only took him having diearea for him to do so I guess. Then I really push the prize thing. It has been two months and he has had two accidents. I was nearly ready to put him back in diapers myself. I hope you find something that helps him.

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